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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Should i say something or not?

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Here is the situation with two of my friends, lets call them A and B. They dont know each other, different parts of my social circle. A is older ( 44 y.o ), in general good guy, and he is wealthy by standards in my country. Due to his job he is often on the road, and because of that he acctually asked some barrista in restaurant in my town to be her suggar daddy. Barrista is young girl ( 20 y.o. ) very attractive. Actually he offered her 150 euros every time they hook up, and she agreed . He told me this in confidence, because we are good friend, and even show me some sms excange between them. I wouldnt mind that, but the thing is my other good friend and colleague B ( 31 y.o ) asked her out on a date and she accepted. He thinks she is a great girl etc. Should i say something? I dont want to betray trust of A, but on the other hand this girl is a ***** and i dont want to see my friend actually dating such girl.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'd definitely tell a about it. See how they react, particularly to the idea of the yiu telling b. These things rarely stay secret, particularly once one part knows, so better to be open, but the payment stuff adds another level of complexity/discretion doesn't it.

Nothing worse than finding out your friends knew about something for ages involving your personal life and finding out about it through someone else. They may come around if they think your intentions were sincere or could end the friendship.

Would you want to be told if you were in either a or b's shoes?
 
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see no evil; hear no evil, speak no evil.

if your younger friend gets into a monogamous LTR with her then blow the whistle if she is not loyal if you want. otherwise she isn't really doing anything wrong unless she has an exclusive with one of them. seeing multiple guys is expected. chances are there is a third+ guys also. taking some money from the older guy makes it convenient for him and his life style also.

no crime yet and you might want a reputation for yourself of discretion.
 

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You stay out of it. It’s a can of worms otherwise and not worth the drama. Your reputation will end up tarnished more than anything and that’s the worst possible outcome.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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None of your business. They are both grown men. B is going on a date, not marrying this woman. For all you know all he wants is to get what A is paying 150 Euros for.
 

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Here is the situation with two of my friends, lets call them A and B. They dont know each other, different parts of my social circle. A is older ( 44 y.o ), in general good guy, and he is wealthy by standards in my country. Due to his job he is often on the road, and because of that he acctually asked some barrista in restaurant in my town to be her suggar daddy. Barrista is young girl ( 20 y.o. ) very attractive. Actually he offered her 150 euros every time they hook up, and she agreed . He told me this in confidence, because we are good friend, and even show me some sms excange between them. I wouldnt mind that, but the thing is my other good friend and colleague B ( 31 y.o ) asked her out on a date and she accepted. He thinks she is a great girl etc. Should i say something? I dont want to betray trust of A, but on the other hand this girl is a ***** and i dont want to see my friend actually dating such girl.
Either way you are going to end up as the illoyal cu'nt to one of the parties and lose their friendship.
Stay out of this can of worms and let it just play out by itself.
 

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Here is the situation with two of my friends, lets call them A and B. They dont know each other, different parts of my social circle. A is older ( 44 y.o ), in general good guy, and he is wealthy by standards in my country. Due to his job he is often on the road, and because of that he acctually asked some barrista in restaurant in my town to be her suggar daddy. Barrista is young girl ( 20 y.o. ) very attractive. Actually he offered her 150 euros every time they hook up, and she agreed . He told me this in confidence, because we are good friend, and even show me some sms excange between them. I wouldnt mind that, but the thing is my other good friend and colleague B ( 31 y.o ) asked her out on a date and she accepted. He thinks she is a great girl etc. Should i say something? I dont want to betray trust of A, but on the other hand this girl is a ***** and i dont want to see my friend actually dating such girl.
Tell her that you also want to be her sugar daddy. Then all three of you will be eskimo brothers.
 
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