Here is the situation with two of my friends, lets call them A and B. They dont know each other, different parts of my social circle. A is older ( 44 y.o ), in general good guy, and he is wealthy by standards in my country. Due to his job he is often on the road, and because of that he acctually asked some barrista in restaurant in my town to be her suggar daddy. Barrista is young girl ( 20 y.o. ) very attractive. Actually he offered her 150 euros every time they hook up, and she agreed . He told me this in confidence, because we are good friend, and even show me some sms excange between them. I wouldnt mind that, but the thing is my other good friend and colleague B ( 31 y.o ) asked her out on a date and she accepted. He thinks she is a great girl etc. Should i say something? I dont want to betray trust of A, but on the other hand this girl is a ***** and i dont want to see my friend actually dating such girl.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Should i say something or not?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I'd definitely tell a about it. See how they react, particularly to the idea of the yiu telling b. These things rarely stay secret, particularly once one part knows, so better to be open, but the payment stuff adds another level of complexity/discretion doesn't it.
Nothing worse than finding out your friends knew about something for ages involving your personal life and finding out about it through someone else. They may come around if they think your intentions were sincere or could end the friendship.
Would you want to be told if you were in either a or b's shoes?
Nothing worse than finding out your friends knew about something for ages involving your personal life and finding out about it through someone else. They may come around if they think your intentions were sincere or could end the friendship.
Would you want to be told if you were in either a or b's shoes?
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Desdinova
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I would just leave it all alone. I understand you don't want to piss either of these guys off and it bothers you that this cvnt is playing both of them, but that's what a lot of women do. If she was fvcking a guy who wasn't guy A, then you wouldn't even know about it.
metalwater
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see no evil; hear no evil, speak no evil.
if your younger friend gets into a monogamous LTR with her then blow the whistle if she is not loyal if you want. otherwise she isn't really doing anything wrong unless she has an exclusive with one of them. seeing multiple guys is expected. chances are there is a third+ guys also. taking some money from the older guy makes it convenient for him and his life style also.
no crime yet and you might want a reputation for yourself of discretion.
if your younger friend gets into a monogamous LTR with her then blow the whistle if she is not loyal if you want. otherwise she isn't really doing anything wrong unless she has an exclusive with one of them. seeing multiple guys is expected. chances are there is a third+ guys also. taking some money from the older guy makes it convenient for him and his life style also.
no crime yet and you might want a reputation for yourself of discretion.
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You stay out of it. It’s a can of worms otherwise and not worth the drama. Your reputation will end up tarnished more than anything and that’s the worst possible outcome.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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None of your business. They are both grown men. B is going on a date, not marrying this woman. For all you know all he wants is to get what A is paying 150 Euros for.
AureliusMaximus
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Either way you are going to end up as the illoyal cu'nt to one of the parties and lose their friendship.
Stay out of this can of worms and let it just play out by itself.
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Tell her that you also want to be her sugar daddy. Then all three of you will be eskimo brothers.