"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Should I or Shouldn't I ?

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This girls is head over heals over me AFTER i have been ICE towards her..

Should i continue Being ice, or should i warm up a bit?

- I Am honestly clueless, if i warm up - IMHO - i think she will turn her back. If i stay ICE, i am scared about the results too..

I really dig this girl, i have been in love with her for ½ year, but a lot of **** has screwed around with the "relationship"..

I hope for some good advice.

Thanks
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It's the dilemma we all face. We attract women being Don Juan's but the moment we let our "inner nice guy" out a bit they lose attraction for us and spit in our face.

The only thing I can recommend is to be careful. I have seen plenty of posts like yours in this forum where guys end up losing the girl for letting their inner nice guy out.

What you have to understand is this. She fell for a "certain" you and if you all of a sudden change then she has a right to be disappointed and lose interest. Just like if you fell for a beautiful girl who later turned into a fat pig so you ended up losing interest and dumping her.

I say continue doing what is making you happy. Is being ice with her making you happy? If so keep doing it.
 
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When faced with a "Should I/Shouldn't I" dilemma, always default to action. Go for the Should I. If she stays with you despite your warming up, she's a keeper. If not, she never really liked you anyway. You might've ended up marrying this chick only to divorce her and be a bitter man who drinks alone in a death-hole of an apartment later on in life. Is that what you want? Dude, if it wasn't for a failure with a girl you didn't get; as in, if you were a natural who succeeded with every bird he came across, would you even be ON this forum right now improving yourself at an alarming rate? I think not. The only way up is down.
 
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