Should I or Shouldn't I ?

[European-DJ]

This girls is head over heals over me AFTER i have been ICE towards her..

Should i continue Being ice, or should i warm up a bit?

- I Am honestly clueless, if i warm up - IMHO - i think she will turn her back. If i stay ICE, i am scared about the results too..

I really dig this girl, i have been in love with her for ½ year, but a lot of **** has screwed around with the "relationship"..

I hope for some good advice.

Thanks

 

[f283000]

It's the dilemma we all face. We attract women being Don Juan's but the moment we let our "inner nice guy" out a bit they lose attraction for us and spit in our face.

The only thing I can recommend is to be careful. I have seen plenty of posts like yours in this forum where guys end up losing the girl for letting their inner nice guy out.

What you have to understand is this. She fell for a "certain" you and if you all of a sudden change then she has a right to be disappointed and lose interest. Just like if you fell for a beautiful girl who later turned into a fat pig so you ended up losing interest and dumping her.

I say continue doing what is making you happy. Is being ice with her making you happy? If so keep doing it.

 

[TheJazz]

When faced with a "Should I/Shouldn't I" dilemma, always default to action. Go for the Should I. If she stays with you despite your warming up, she's a keeper. If not, she never really liked you anyway. You might've ended up marrying this chick only to divorce her and be a bitter man who drinks alone in a death-hole of an apartment later on in life. Is that what you want? Dude, if it wasn't for a failure with a girl you didn't get; as in, if you were a natural who succeeded with every bird he came across, would you even be ON this forum right now improving yourself at an alarming rate? I think not. The only way up is down.