"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Should I openly say I'm Atheist ?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
I'm secure in my penis size.. should I go out side and walk around butt ass naked because of it, just getting an air dry? No, because it will cause uncalled for problems that can be prevented by wearing draws.
I never did like dating sites...if I were to do one It would be as blank as I could possibly leave everything.. there is no mystery and waht's thef un in that?
That's taking it to extremes.backbreaker said:
That's like saying if I state I'm an atheist, I also insult God in massive block letters on the top of the page.
I'm saying not to worry so much about what other people will think, he said himself that he doesn't want to scare people away. Don't worry about that.
I seriously doubt people will find it any less attractive. My mate stated he was atheist and managed to pull a catholic chick over MySpace.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Trust me, coming from a fellow athiest..it's not worth it. it has nothing to do with security, it has everything to do with getting random emails from bible thumpers, having at least 1-2 long drawn out pointless converastions wtih people who are trying to "save me from the devil", my EX tried to read me a passage from the bible and I, the atheist, had to show her where it was at.
Then the women that don't freak out.. it will come up in a converation within a week's time, if for no other reason she has nothing to talk about and it seems "interesting enough", and will pry utnil she figures out what "changed you" then try to pry and see are you a crazy *******.
again, I"m not crazy, I just dont' beleive in god. however, I don't go out of my way to show I'm an athiest.. I'm not looking for converts or anything... just trying to keep the peace.
I used to be the guy.. I'm atheist and i'm proud guy... Every freakin other day.. someone somewhere. my best friend plays the piano for his church.. we staye dup to 7am one night talking about the bible... i had to cancel a date.
relgious people have no idea how much they get on atheists nerves.. if it werent' for this crap I wouldn't have a problem. I can even deal with you thinking I'm gone in the head.
what i can't deal with is the inconvenience of my life trying to defend myself... and usually I let it slide.. until they keep provoking you... because all they are trying to do is prove to themselves.. it has little to do with me
selfmademob
Banned
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Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You do have a point there. I feel sorry for the gay atheist out there who need to prove that their lifestyle isn't a choice...selfmademob said:
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Amen. (ahem!)
Speaking of penis size, Backbreaker, guys on dating sites are notorious for sending unsolicited c0ck pictures. So you're not even exaggerating.
Much like bringing up c0ck size, mentioning your religion doesn't really belong on a facebook profile for everybody to see, unless you're a real activist.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Charm&Style
Master Don Juan
azanon said:
its funny how true that is. A couple of months back the big thing in the news was this cuban ex drugg lord who claimed he was Jesus and he had tons of followers and tons of hot beeotches :drool:
Putting your religious views on facebook/myspace is fine as well. I know a very popular person who is openly atheist. Just don't bring it up in conversation with people. It's generally a bad idea.
http://www.pointlesswasteoftime.com/godfuse.html illustrates this. You come off as just as arrogant to the religious fanatics as they come off to you. I would come up just as arrogant if I went around preaching my religious views (I'm a hard agnostic).
Charm&Style
Master Don Juan
Serialized3 said:
bro you're lame, how is that going to help him network or attract girls. Its ok to say you're atheist and be intellectual about it but its another to flame on God (which majority of the world "believes" in)
:box:
Serialized3
Master Don Juan
You're thick in the head if you don't see both the humor in that statement, and that I was joking. Do you actually take facebook or whatever seriously? :kick:Charm&Style said:
Plus, who cares what the world believes in? Most people are idiots.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Charm&Style
Master Don Juan
Not really, im pretty open minded, i just fail to see where the humor was (yes i get that he's an atheist and thus has no belief in god so its a so-to-say oxymoron) but still i fail to see the humorSerialized3 said:
it depends what ppl use their fcbk for, one reason that i started an account is because of the networking it has and thus i must take it serious, i write vital information and have vital business connections. ( i have an import business)
As for your last statement :moon: girls in my high school class had that written in their aim profiles...couldn't you come up with anything more original
As for you my atheist friend in question, just put it down as your view, from my experience most ppl are monotheist ("because they were born that way") yet consider themselves agnostic. The only problem with religious views is that when discussed battles, and arguments occur. You should stand up for what you believe in at the time of need but im sure you know, if you're out on a date try not to speak of such stuff unless she is totally interested. Political and religious talks always turns ppl completely off and brings at times hatred and rage towards each other (IMO).
"May the forces of luck be with you"
(lol my atheist friend always told me this)
theunflushables
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Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I'm personally suspicious of people who define themselves by either religious or political ideologies. It's not about their belief whatever it may be, it's just the fact that they have to proclaim it in a self defining manner. I'm guessing it's because it's more difficult to engage people who are driven mostly by the beliefs of a group. Images of a horde, collective or cult comes to mind.theunflushables said:
Just my two cents.
Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
the term sheep comes to mind here. heheFrancisco d'Anconia said:
I do not like people who follow someone elses beliefs/ideologies. I personally like to have my own.
Themanthatcan
Senior Don Juan
Is anyone here actually a Christian?
By the way, I wouldn't make that public. Your overdoing it.
It's like a rich man telling you he's rich.
You don't have to tell anyone- If they hang out with you long enough, they'll just know.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.