"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Should I laugh it off or say something

mahon83050

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My friend (well I have known him for 26 years) but I do not consider him a good friend. He thinks it is funny I am on match.com, but I will not tell him my username.

He had some chick he works with e-mail me ( I found this out later, I did not know who the e-mail was from, but I figured he had something to do with it) pretending she was on match, but forgot my username and wanted it. The girl even sent me a pick. Later turns out it was all a joke and he put her up to it.

I am pissed off at this kid, but he has always been an instigator. Should I confront him or laugh it off. BTW, they never saw my profile.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Mack Bishop

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why do u care
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Julian

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Dude who cares. Id tell him to concern himself with more important matters, and if he has nothing better to do then he should reevaluate his current lifestyle, because it seems quite pathetic.
 

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I'd ask them 'both' if they had nothing better to do. But come off with a playful tone, show them you have a sense of humor and won't be bothered by silly games like that.

If it really did bother you, relax and let it roll off your back as Dukester put it.
 

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why not email her back, and tell her that her picture is very ugly, she never stands a chance. Then, snap a photo of that b*tch ass and put it up on Match as a gay guy. thatll show him.
 

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Originally posted by b's nuts
why not email her back, and tell her that her picture is very ugly, she never stands a chance. Then, snap a photo of that b*tch ass and put it up on Match as a gay guy. thatll show him.
Hey Mahon, been awhile. While I think B's suggestion is very funny. I believe that would be 'stooping to their level' and I know your above that. I wouldn't even consider this guy a friend. Why do you even hang out with him? I wouldn't even do anything back and forget about them. hang out with new people. If he continue's his little games then I think you may need to have a little fist to face talk.

Also, dating sites/services are catching on and starting to become 'acceptable' but most people it's still a stigma. While I'm with the crowd that says go out in person to meet women, i see no reason why you can't supplement your dating life.

One time I mentioned this site to a friend (i grew up with this guy) because I thought the advice on here would straighten his AFC'ness out. He looked at me like I was crazy. Some people just aren't open minded enough. Some things you just gotta keep to yourself I guess. Good Luck.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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