"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Should I just pop the question?

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Okay, in HS and I've been messing with this girl for a weeks. First, before I even go deeper into the story, we don't even talk that much in person but we used to text a lot. She made me a little card for my birthday and stuff and mentioned how she really likes me and I may be her boyfriend and that today would be nice but any other day would work. I paid no attention to that last part until the evening when I actually comprehended what she said.

So I sent her a text (her friend gave it to me since she left early) saying how I loved the card and how I appreciated it and stuff but I guess that didn't work well with her and I heard her talking to her friend saying **** me and stuff I guess because I didn't ask her out but she still displays interest. Now I wouldn't mind being exclusive with her but we only been talking for like maybe 4-5 weeks. Seems kinda early to me to ask but I still want to be with her. I've been single for like a year and a half so I don't typically rush into things.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Go read DJBC
 

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read the achive forum and the tips forum.

you wont get all the answers there. in fact, you will probably start asking more.
 

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PokerStar said:
read the achive forum and the tips forum.

you wont get all the answers there. in fact, you will probably start asking more.
Agreed.

GetTrippy - you're talking about getting exclusive with a girl you havent even really dated.

Go to the Tips section or the Archive and start reading.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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GetTrippy said:
Don't really know where to look for it.
You're missing the whole point. If you have to post a question on an internet forum to decide wether or not to ask out a girl whom you've flirted with then you have no game and no confidence. Go read DJBC, get some balls and sarge in the real world; it's a teenage girl, not Operation Market Garden, just do it already.
 
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