"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Should I IM her or would this seem weird?

uwoshdave

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Ok I don't want to make this another should i Im her thread....but here's the deal. Yesterday this really hot girl left i didnt even know was my friend on facebook left me a comment saying happy bday. That surprised me so of coarse I sent her a message.....something along the lines of "Wanna remind me why we havent talked yet? You're gorgeous and you listen to great music. So idk about you but I'd love to get to know ya."

Well she replied with "thank you hun ;) and the best part is we're both going to the same school." So to that i sent her something like "Yea we are! So tell me, I know there's more to you than just your looks, so what makes you special?"

I sent that this morning and she hasn't responded although I'm sure she saw it b/c she changed her facebook status like 2 hrs ago. Her away on aim (sn on facebook) is "i have tickets to see Trace Adkins, Chris Cagle, and Eric Church tonight at State Fair's Country Fest for $20... if anyone wants to go with me give me a call. I reallllyyyyyyy wanna go! "

Should I wait and see if she first replies to my message or should I just IM her and say something like hey ill go with ya. She's been idle for a couple of hrs so idk if she'd see it today anymore...

What would you guys do?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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uwoshdave

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No im not at the concert....she was idle so I'm guessing she's not even home.
Let me take a wild guess....I shouldn't have complimented her?

Ok, I'll admit it, I do need help....what would you guys have said?

Say, what's a good opening line to use with facebook girls who I'll be going to college with in about a month?
 
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Man you came off sounding really needy, obsessive, lustful, creepy... you get the picture.

Is this some kind of joke? You can't be serious
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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uwoshdave said:
No im not at the concert....she was idle so I'm guessing she's not even home.
So you didn't contact her at all? This is the biggest reason why you're sitting home on your computer tonight and she's out having fun.

This is a problem I'm seeing more and more as I read the posts on this board. So many people get hung up on analyzing every situation to death that they fail to take action. I admit I'm guilty of this at times too. It's ok to read the posts and wonder "what does this mean?", "should I do this?", or "how do I do this?" but it all means nothing if you don't take any action.
 
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