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Should I go to a sex club to get experience?

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I don't know why corrector is fixated on me throughout this conversation, but anyways...I think going would make you more comfortable with human sexuality and therefore your own. So this would be the sole reason to go. Though, you can approach lower value women through various methods until you get one that wants sex, and you will get more comfortable with your sexuality through that means also.
 

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I have said that and I stand by that statement. You're going to have to fix your PIED and living situation first, then figure out your Game situation. Approaching in-person is better than the swipe apps or sending DMs on social media. Approaching in a sex/swingers club is not a good use of time.



I don't think nudity is going to solve your approach anxiety.
I know, I just get demoralized because PIED can take so long to be cured. Corrector said that certain herbals can help with it and I’d be willing to give anything that isn’t viagra a try in order to speed up PIED recovery. My living situation is another reason why I thought this could be a good idea because in the extremely slim chance that I did get laid at the club, they have private bedrooms to have sex in. I always thought that if I ever did meet anyone and my living situation is still the same that I would get us hotel rooms if that would work. I guess its just a matter of finding the right places for in person approaches. I thought that having to do in person approaches while nude would actually make regular approaching a lot easier by comparison, but who knows.
 

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Its hit and miss when I get carded for alcohol, so who knows. Do you think I should give AdultFriendFinder a try instead lol
I tried it in 2006 and it worked okay for that year (ie November, 2006 was the only month it was used in that year, or ever). I could of met someone but chickened out with the influence of my c-blocking parents.

I wrote a blog and sent out messages relentlessly and wasn't aware of things like chads/popular guys, at a time where movies like 40 Year Virgin (2005) was popular and the zeiguist was pro-game/pro-red-pill. I was on there as I felt frustrated and rejected by another girl I met on the internet earlier on the same year that I had a crush on and then found out the hard way on some blog she wrote that she was pumped and dumped and I was totally shocked and lost confidence with her and felt if women are going to be like that in normal dating sites, what do I have to lose with an explicit one like AFF right?
 

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I don't know why corrector is fixated on me throughout this conversation, but anyways...I think going would make you more comfortable with human sexuality and therefore your own. So this would be the sole reason to go. Though, you can approach lower value women through various methods until you get one that wants sex, and you will get more comfortable with your sexuality through that means also.
That’s what I thought too. I’m sure there will be a ton of other men trying to get with the women who are in the club, but just being in a highly sexual environment like that could help. They also have an outdoor pool and jacuzzi, so I could always go for a swim too if nothing else lol.
 

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I tried it in 2006 and it worked okay for that year (ie November, 2006 was the only month it was used in that year, or ever). I could of met someone but chickened out with the influence of my c-blocking parents.

I wrote a blog and sent out messages relentlessly and wasn't aware of things like chads/popular guys, at a time where movies like 40 Year Virgin (2005) was popular and the zeiguist was pro-game/pro-red-pill. I was on there as I felt frustrated and rejected by another girl I met on the internet earlier on the same year that I had a crush on and then found out the hard way on some blog she wrote that she was pumped and dumped and I was totally shocked and lost confidence with her and felt if women are going to be like that in normal dating sites, what do I have to lose with an explicit one like AFF right?
Maybe I should give AFF a try at some point, what herbals do you recommend for helping you get it up? I really want something that will help me recover from PIED sooner so I don’t have to wait so long. I know how that is, living with my parents has held me back a lot. Damn, that was definitely an eye opening experience for you then. Most women will do things like that though, a girl tht I was interested in broke up with her bf and then right afterwards, she went and fu*ked his best friend and they later got back together, but the two of them hid it from him.
 

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You might even see your Mom there OP
 

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Maybe I should give AFF a try at some point, what herbals do you recommend for helping you get it up? I really want something that will help me recover from PIED sooner so I don’t have to wait so long. I know how that is, living with my parents has held me back a lot. Damn, that was definitely an eye opening experience for you then. Most women will do things like that though, a girl tht I was interested in broke up with her bf and then right afterwards, she went and fu*ked his best friend and they later got back together, but the two of them hid it from him.
What was eye opening in 2006 is blackpill whatever today.
 

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No I never have because they cost extra money
I was pitched by an hb9+ barbie and she gave me a nude rating on my own PIED and she was very flattering that I had an ego boast for a couple of days plus I approached someone feeling exposed. The mere thought that another woman saw that put my head in space. It cost $20, but she pitched me on it in the morning. We had a nice talk and I found out her main employment is OF. She was happy I recently found a job and thinks I have a nice job. She was pleasant to talk to. You need good energy hot girls like that to say you look great nude.
 

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True, and I’ve seen what blackpilled ideology can do. Remember a long time ago I made a thread about one of them called Marshall Mathers the 4th?
Again, my experience, while hurtful in 2006 was more than made up by a subsequent ex gf soulmate I met in 2012.
 

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I was pitched by an hb9+ barbie and she gave me a nude rating on my own PIED and she was very flattering that I had an ego boast for a couple of days plus I approached someone feeling exposed. The mere thought that another woman saw that put my head in space. It cost $20, but she pitched me on it in the morning. We had a nice talk and I found out her main employment is OF. She was happy I recently found a job and thinks I have a nice job. She was pleasant to talk to. You need good energy hot girls like that to say you look great nude.
Is that worth it for me though when I never meet any women? I would agree that it can give you an ego boost, but it doesn’t seem like it would be too beneficial to me since I don’t even meet women.

Again, my experience, while hurtful in 2006 was more than made up by a subsequent ex gf soulmate I met in 2012.
Yeah at least you had that to make up for it, can’t say the same for me, but at least nothing bad has happened to me either.
 

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I know, I just get demoralized because PIED can take so long to be cured. Corrector said that certain herbals can help with it and I’d be willing to give anything that isn’t viagra a try in order to speed up PIED recovery. My living situation is another reason why I thought this could be a good idea because in the extremely slim chance that I did get laid at the club, they have private bedrooms to have sex in. I always thought that if I ever did meet anyone and my living situation is still the same that I would get us hotel rooms if that would work. I guess its just a matter of finding the right places for in person approaches. I thought that having to do in person approaches while nude would actually make regular approaching a lot easier by comparison, but who knows.
At a sex club, your penis is going to be judged. For the few couples that seek an MFM threesome at a sex club, the woman in that couple is seeking to have sex with a man with a nice physique and a good erection. She's likely wanting a bigger than average penis because her husband/boyfriend likely has an average sized penis. If she wants to have sex with an average sized penis, she can have sex with her husband/boyfriend. A guy with a large penis will be a special experience for her because she hasn't been having sex with a large penis during the duration of her relationship with her boyfriend/husband, which could easily be 10+ years. A lot of swinger couples have 50+ women who have had the same primary relationship for 20+ years.

You have an interesting idea about the bedroom situation. For $100, you're better off going to a conventional nightlife venue and then getting a room at a hotel if you want a one night stand.

It's possible for a man to live at home and get laid regularly, but he might have a top tier physique, good facial aesthetics, and good erections.
 

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Is that worth it for me though when I never meet any women? I would agree that it can give you an ego boost, but it doesn’t seem like it would be too beneficial to me since I don’t even meet women.
You should meet normal women. If you are unable to meet normal women then its better to deal with an interactive online lady then to go to a place like that.

You are still interacting with women when you go out? Most cashiers are women. Why dont you just appoach 6 women today, and just approach them. Say hi, my name is ....., I just thought you were cute and wanted to introduce myself. Or be more flirtatious with a cashier.
 

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For $100, you're better off going to a conventional nightlife venue and then getting a room at a hotel if you want a one night stand.
^This.

Or, a at minimum, maybe start to get comfortable with the nightlife scene. Have one drink and make small talk with a cute bartender chick (as practice) if she isn’t too busy. Then turn your head and see if you can chat with some other chick seated near you or standing there trying to order a drink.

Even eventually getting a nightlife makeout with a cute chick will be more gratifying than (best case scenario) full on awkward sex with some much older swinger lady.
 

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Its hit and miss when I get carded for alcohol, so who knows. Do you think I should give AdultFriendFinder a try instead lol
I actually got started down the road to all kinds of crazy sex on AFF but thats back when much more of it was free than it is now. Its pretty sketchy in many ways but its definitely has some freaks on it, or at least it used to before you had to pay for everything.
 

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Yeah I am not because I haven’t had any opportunities in so many years. Because I’ve never approached before and I don’t want my 30’s to be the same way as my teens and 20’s. I thought that if you can approach women when you’re completely naked, then approaching women in regular places and fully clothed would be a lot easier.
The only reason a guy who isn't having sex would be naked would be if they had something to show off. Either a great body or horse ####. The women are there for fantasy fulfillment so if you don't have something like that going for you you're better off keeping your clothes on.
 

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The only reason a guy who isn't having sex would be naked would be if they had something to show off. Either a great body or horse ####. The women are there for fantasy fulfillment so if you don't have something like that going for you you're better off keeping your clothes on.
Great point! I doubt either of those things applies to the OP.

You have an interesting idea about the bedroom situation. For $100, you're better off going to a conventional nightlife venue and then getting a room at a hotel if you want a one night stand.
^This.

Or, a at minimum, maybe start to get comfortable with the nightlife scene. Have one drink and make small talk with a cute bartender chick (as practice) if she isn’t too busy. Then turn your head and see if you can chat with some other chick seated near you or standing there trying to order a drink.

Even eventually getting a nightlife makeout with a cute chick will be more gratifying than (best case scenario) full on awkward sex with some much older swinger lady.
The big advantage for a 29 year old male in a nightlife venue is that he's likely to talk to a 24-29 year old in a nightlife venue as compared to a 40-60 year old in a swinger club.
 

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I just have to think that a swinger's club has the most harridan and/or obese women.
 
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