You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
thanks, ill do thatAlexParadox said:step 1:
read the DJ Bible: http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
step 2:
shut up, and go for it.
step 2 alt. :
If your a newbie to the whole "getting girls" thing, go and have fun and don't bother trying if you are not confident enough. You will only embarrass yourself.
Because from what you just told me:
-you havent seen her for a long time
-she never liked you before
-your a newbie and only has one goal: to kiss her
im not the greatest at math, but this adds up to a failure and a follow up post titled:
I SCREWED UP, NEED HELP FAST
step 3
after what ever happened that night, do yourself a favor and print off/save a copy of the DJ bootcamp (located on same page as DJ bible) and try it out.
so that one day, you will look back and laugh at how unconfident you were, that you needed to ask if you should go in for a kiss.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.