"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Should I go for the kiss close

Pdizzzzzzle

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So basically here's the deal. This girl I went to middle school with went to an all girls school for high school. We kept in touch a little freshman year, but communications dropped off sophomore year. Suddenly, she asked me to her school's formal and I said I'd go. If the dance goes decently well should I kiss close?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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AlexParadox

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step 1:
read the DJ Bible: http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/

step 2:

shut up, and go for it.

step 2 alt. :
If your a newbie to the whole "getting girls" thing, go and have fun and don't bother trying if you are not confident enough. You will only embarrass yourself.
Because from what you just told me:
-you havent seen her for a long time
-she never liked you before
-your a newbie and only has one goal: to kiss her

im not the greatest at math, but this adds up to a failure and a follow up post titled:
I SCREWED UP, NEED HELP FAST

step 3
after what ever happened that night, do yourself a favor and print off/save a copy of the DJ bootcamp (located on same page as DJ bible) and try it out.

so that one day, you will look back and laugh at how unconfident you were, that you needed to ask if you should go in for a kiss.
 

Pdizzzzzzle

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AlexParadox said:
step 1:
read the DJ Bible: http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/

step 2:

shut up, and go for it.

step 2 alt. :
If your a newbie to the whole "getting girls" thing, go and have fun and don't bother trying if you are not confident enough. You will only embarrass yourself.
Because from what you just told me:
-you havent seen her for a long time
-she never liked you before
-your a newbie and only has one goal: to kiss her

im not the greatest at math, but this adds up to a failure and a follow up post titled:
I SCREWED UP, NEED HELP FAST

step 3
after what ever happened that night, do yourself a favor and print off/save a copy of the DJ bootcamp (located on same page as DJ bible) and try it out.

so that one day, you will look back and laugh at how unconfident you were, that you needed to ask if you should go in for a kiss.
thanks, ill do that
 
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You should absolutely try to kiss her. The only way you will become better with women is by ACTUALLY TRYING; you win some, you lose some, but it's the experience that stays with you. The DJ Bible will put you in the right frame of mind, but it won't get girls for you. Live and learn, brother.
 

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Yes you should. It's obv she wants you to some degree (she invited you to a formal after all) and you will definitely get it.

A perfect opportunity won't come, so take it whenever you two get alone and close. If this doesn't happen first, wait until slow song, kiss her afterwards.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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An easy way to get to this point is strong eye contact especially during slow dances. When you get to the moment lean in and go for it. You will know the moment. Just don't think about it or hesitate. instant reaction

I used this back in HS when I was nervous or question myself. Out of about ten girls it failed one time and I ended up having to wait a a couple dates to finally kiss close.
 
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