"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Should I Go For It?

Ice882

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Hey guys, so I'm a junior in high school, and school just started today. However, I was an orientation leader during last week and I met this freshman girl who I toured around the school answering her questions and being C+F. She was pretty cute, and I'm pretty sure I could get with her if I actually went for it. I saw her in the hall today and she gave me the sexy eyes and a sly smile Thing is, she's a freshman....like 14 or 15, and I just turned 17 yesterday.

Should I go for this freshman girl? She's like an 8. Responses please!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If its legal in your state, yes.

Regret is worse then rejection. Live by that 1000%. (Registering as a sex offender cause her parents didn't like you is worse then regret) 10,000%.

Where do you live?
 

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scrouds said:
If its legal in your state, yes.

MA? I don't know. I feel like its not-- I think consent is 16. But its different if you're the same age or one year apart....which we're not but anyway I don't think it'd be an issue unless it was actually rape or reported by her parents or something. I don't believe it would be an issue as long as she consented and her parents didn't find out....

anyone else have an opinion on whether or not I should go for this?
 

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Would it matter if I said yes or no? Do you want other people telling you what to think or do? If you like her and want to go for it.. Then go for it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Would it matter if I said yes or no? Do you want other people telling you what to think or do? If you like her and want to go for it.. Then go for it.
By that logic everyone would ignore all advice forever. You can't do that if you want to succeed. There is unlimited knowledge in this world, and one person can only learn so much of it "by doing". There are things that must be taught.

I'm asking if anyone sees any potential consequences, i.e.

- my losing standing at the school for getting with a freshman

- some sort of sexual assault law (a stupid one, I wouldn't ever rape)

etc.
 

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Go for what you want

When I was in high school - all of us senior guys were hanging out with freshman girls.

They were damn cute

I understand that you are *concerned* about how others view this - but again, if you are comfortable and cool with it yourself, then you can *pull it off*
 

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From my experience, if your a junior and your trying to get with a freshman, thats perfectly fine, just as long as shes good looking (you say shes an 8). Dont worry about what other people think such as "losing your standard". If anyone gives you crap or says something, just say back "Dude I dont care I think shes mad hot".

And dont get hung up on the sexual assault thing.

And take scrouds advice. Regret is much worse than rejection. Your in highschool man, just fvcking go for it!
 

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Alright I'm going for it. Let's get pumped BOYS.

Regret is so much worse than rejection, so true.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ice882 said:
By that logic everyone would ignore all advice forever. You can't do that if you want to succeed. There is unlimited knowledge in this world, and one person can only learn so much of it "by doing". There are things that must be taught.
But, in the end YOU choose the final decision. Thats the beauty of your own freedom. You can do what you want. Advice is just re-assurance to what you are already thinking... (most the time.)
 
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