I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
dude? im not an afc TRUST me....zinc64 said:First of all you are an AFC at best and a ***** to boot. You are in her bed and both very drunk and you don't want to take advantage of the situation???? Dude she wanted to **** you or at least everything else. If she let's you in her bed you are NOT taking advantage of her unless she is puking her guts out everywhere. Drop this lame ass chivarly mentality because it's all fake to begin with and don't treat her like she is some fragile little doll.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
theguy351 said:dude? im not an afc TRUST me....
im sorry, but im not going to **** a girl when were both drunk and i actually like her...and its not like we didnt do anything...we made out and i was feelin her up all over the place.
if it was a hit it and quit it, hell yeah. but i can see myself dating this girl.
well if were sober and i did that...yes id think the same thing, but its cause we were drunk and we were doing stuff but then she wanted me to just hold her and we fell asleep sozinc64 said:That's your problem. You are placing her high up and you don't even realize it. Sorry if my original post sounded very harsh, but why should you treat this girl different than any other? **** her and continue to see her. Because you want to date her, you are giving her a special status, therefore giving her power without even realizing it. Trust me man. Treat every girl the same until you are in a serious relationship with one. No one is special until proven otherwise.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
yes I would take this advice seriously as well. If you build her up you only going to get hurt in the end. Try to remain emotionally detached at least until you actually become exclusive.zinc64 said:That's your problem. You are placing her high up and you don't even realize it. Sorry if my original post sounded very harsh, but why should you treat this girl different than any other? **** her and continue to see her. Because you want to date her, you are giving her a special status, therefore giving her power without even realizing it. Trust me man. Treat every girl the same until you are in a serious relationship with one. No one is special until proven otherwise.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
hey yeah I know what you mean. Same thing has happened to me multiple times. So now I try to not like them so much. I mean over the years I've realized I've started to like girls for no other reason than that I thought she liked me. So I had built her up and when I got shot down it hurt that much more. So I've gone through a sort of changing mindset when it comes to dating. I don't over-analyze because I don't let myself fall madly in love with a girl I don't know that well. It makes life less stressful.theguy351 said:yeah im going to try to...thats just always been my problem....usually i dont like the girls enough ot date them, so those girls i just hook up with and then act non chalant the next day and ****.....when its a girl i actually like i always over analyze everything
im sorry, if i like a girl im not gonna bang her wen shes drunk, unless she wanted to......its not like i was jus lookin for *****.snowdog said:Dude what the ****, you should had ****ed her when she was drunk
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
lol ur judging the situation incorrectly....i guess its hard for you when it's online.snowdog said:Yea whatever. She was lying IN BED with you and WILLING to have sex with you. How many more hints do you need? SHE WANTED YOU TO **** HER. And you didn't. Look where you are now, you can't even ask her number. It perfectly normal that things are weird between you two because you basicly rejected her without realizing it (Other members, correct me if i'm wrong here).
Listen to me dude, and listen good. Being nice and a 'proper' guy never got me laid, ever. Follow your BALLS. You had a boner there didn't you? Well it didn't pop up for nothing, pal. Really, **** being a proper guy. I wanna get laid and one thing i learned throughout all those lonely years: being nice and proper is NOT the way. The only times when i got to make out with girls was when i was stoned all the time and didn't give a sh*t about anything, and when i was really really drunk once. Every girl, no matter how ugly or stupid she was, i rejected i regret. It's simple chemistry. My body told me to go for it (boner) but my mind told me no. When it comes to girls, your balls are smarter then your brain. On top of that, you had a GREAT girl in your bed and you rejected her. I hate to tell you this, because you seem like a genuinely good guy.
But you ****ed up.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.