Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
dude? im not an afc TRUST me....zinc64 said:First of all you are an AFC at best and a ***** to boot. You are in her bed and both very drunk and you don't want to take advantage of the situation???? Dude she wanted to **** you or at least everything else. If she let's you in her bed you are NOT taking advantage of her unless she is puking her guts out everywhere. Drop this lame ass chivarly mentality because it's all fake to begin with and don't treat her like she is some fragile little doll.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
theguy351 said:dude? im not an afc TRUST me....
im sorry, but im not going to **** a girl when were both drunk and i actually like her...and its not like we didnt do anything...we made out and i was feelin her up all over the place.
if it was a hit it and quit it, hell yeah. but i can see myself dating this girl.
well if were sober and i did that...yes id think the same thing, but its cause we were drunk and we were doing stuff but then she wanted me to just hold her and we fell asleep sozinc64 said:That's your problem. You are placing her high up and you don't even realize it. Sorry if my original post sounded very harsh, but why should you treat this girl different than any other? **** her and continue to see her. Because you want to date her, you are giving her a special status, therefore giving her power without even realizing it. Trust me man. Treat every girl the same until you are in a serious relationship with one. No one is special until proven otherwise.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
yes I would take this advice seriously as well. If you build her up you only going to get hurt in the end. Try to remain emotionally detached at least until you actually become exclusive.zinc64 said:That's your problem. You are placing her high up and you don't even realize it. Sorry if my original post sounded very harsh, but why should you treat this girl different than any other? **** her and continue to see her. Because you want to date her, you are giving her a special status, therefore giving her power without even realizing it. Trust me man. Treat every girl the same until you are in a serious relationship with one. No one is special until proven otherwise.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
hey yeah I know what you mean. Same thing has happened to me multiple times. So now I try to not like them so much. I mean over the years I've realized I've started to like girls for no other reason than that I thought she liked me. So I had built her up and when I got shot down it hurt that much more. So I've gone through a sort of changing mindset when it comes to dating. I don't over-analyze because I don't let myself fall madly in love with a girl I don't know that well. It makes life less stressful.theguy351 said:yeah im going to try to...thats just always been my problem....usually i dont like the girls enough ot date them, so those girls i just hook up with and then act non chalant the next day and ****.....when its a girl i actually like i always over analyze everything
im sorry, if i like a girl im not gonna bang her wen shes drunk, unless she wanted to......its not like i was jus lookin for *****.snowdog said:Dude what the ****, you should had ****ed her when she was drunk
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
lol ur judging the situation incorrectly....i guess its hard for you when it's online.snowdog said:Yea whatever. She was lying IN BED with you and WILLING to have sex with you. How many more hints do you need? SHE WANTED YOU TO **** HER. And you didn't. Look where you are now, you can't even ask her number. It perfectly normal that things are weird between you two because you basicly rejected her without realizing it (Other members, correct me if i'm wrong here).
Listen to me dude, and listen good. Being nice and a 'proper' guy never got me laid, ever. Follow your BALLS. You had a boner there didn't you? Well it didn't pop up for nothing, pal. Really, **** being a proper guy. I wanna get laid and one thing i learned throughout all those lonely years: being nice and proper is NOT the way. The only times when i got to make out with girls was when i was stoned all the time and didn't give a sh*t about anything, and when i was really really drunk once. Every girl, no matter how ugly or stupid she was, i rejected i regret. It's simple chemistry. My body told me to go for it (boner) but my mind told me no. When it comes to girls, your balls are smarter then your brain. On top of that, you had a GREAT girl in your bed and you rejected her. I hate to tell you this, because you seem like a genuinely good guy.
But you ****ed up.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.