"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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you're squatting:

8x70kg (154lbs)
8x80kg (176lbs)
8x90kg (198lbs)
(+the bar)

when ive been working out for nearly a year and am only doing 4 sets of 3-5 reps with 75kg! wow! well done.

btw i include the bars weight (20kg) in all my exercises.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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well done.
Well... I've been cheating a bit ;)

Been training badminton for some years, where you almost stand in a squatting stance all the time. You also do a lot of jumping. Therefore, my legs are far better trained than my upper body. So I expect to make the biggest gains there (the upper body that is). Also, keep in mind I'm quite heavy myself (6"2, 86kg) :)

Good luck on your squats.
 

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Arse to grass, no bouncing or lockouts.

And try a widowmaker while you're at it. :D

Semag mate, is there any protein in this thread?
 

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Originally posted by Warboss Alex
Semag mate, is there any protein in this thread?
I dunno... if there was, we might come back to find it gone, as you'd have devoured it.

LOL... I swear, sometimes you sound just like the In-Human himself ;)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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goin all the way down, right bro?
Yup. I have big legs and a big ass, ok? ;)

It's chest/tris day tomorrow. I'll see what I can do in flat bench and put it up here. It's surely not impressive... ;)
 

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Yep, I saw it. Just goes to show that strength gains = size gains, and that Dante's got it spot on (again).
 

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heh... maybe i should pull that out and make a post out for everyone to see (i doubt everyone reads this deep into threads...)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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No, because 90% of people here would see his 'before' pic and go "Eww, I don't want to get that big and lose my sixpack!"

(when they're only really a buck sixty-five, if that.)
 

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lol....

hey now bro, when you start making fun of little people, don't get their bodyweights too high, remmeber i'm only pushin 200 lbs... gotta start somewhere :D

PS: I gotta go throw 2 eggs in a blender and a couple scoops of whey ;)
 

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Originally posted by Warboss Alex
Something I'm seriously having to reconsider at the moment ..
Exactly my sentiments on monday, as my head was pounding and i was feeling queasy.

Rump: The widowmaker method (as per Dante's instructions) goes like this -

1) work up to 6 reps by whatever weight you can do for 6. Let's use my numbers on monday, although i normally don't like to post numbers, because it makes me feel small :(

260x6
260x5 (failed on 6)

2) Then, we go to 70-80% of the weight and do 20 reps.

195 x 16 (failed, damnit, then reracked it) + 4
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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My workout today was completely pathetic. Like I wrote in the initial post of this thread, I have some problems with tris.

I started out with flat bench:

5x40kg

Then I felt "wtf - I'm just hitting my tris, not my pecs". So I tried changing to a wider grip - No difference, did some reps with varying grip. I could only feel weight in the tris all the time, nothing in my chest. So I added 10kg to see if I would feel anything in my chest - Nope.

5x50kg

I then moved on to incline DB bench to see if I could hit my chest, but no, tris were getting tired but still not feeling anything in the chest.

I was desperate to work my chest so I tried a few other exercises:

Dips 1x5 + 1x4 (only bw@87kg). This one felt mostly in the tris.

Seated flies (machine) 8x54kg + 6x61kg - This was the only place were I felt my pecs working a bit, but my arms were pretty tired already so I couldn't do it very well.

At the end I did some skullcrushers, just for the hell of it:
8x15kg
6x20kg


Wtf is wrong with my chest exercises???
 

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how wide is your grip on flat...
index finger on the rings?

Do some decline bench

make sure your shoulderblades are ****ed in and pulled back
 

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rumpsteak - stop lifting the bar up all the way!

at the bottom of the movement, the bar should be right at your chest level, then lift it up about 5 inches. don't lift it all the way up or strengthen your arms. that makes your tris work hard.

lifting the bar 5 inches up makes the pecs do most of the work, and tris barely come into play.

here is a photo of what I mean:

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v632/Mind_Over_Matter/benchright1.jpg

while the range of motion is small this way, you will find that it is much harder to do due to the fact your triceps barely help. this focuses 90% on pectorials. also, you will have to use lesser weights at first, since it's harder this way. don't worry about that, you will go up in numbers fast, and will have a much much better chest to show for it.
 

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Alright thanks for the tips guys. I extended my arms fully. I tried different grip widths but they all seemed to be messing with my tris instead. I'll try the 5 inch thing next time.

I don't think weight is the problem. I could have done 2x8x50kg but I felt it was useless since I would just kill my tris, thus I went on to try out other chest exercises and to find out what I did wrong. :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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