"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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you're squatting:

8x70kg (154lbs)
8x80kg (176lbs)
8x90kg (198lbs)
(+the bar)

when ive been working out for nearly a year and am only doing 4 sets of 3-5 reps with 75kg! wow! well done.

btw i include the bars weight (20kg) in all my exercises.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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well done.
Well... I've been cheating a bit ;)

Been training badminton for some years, where you almost stand in a squatting stance all the time. You also do a lot of jumping. Therefore, my legs are far better trained than my upper body. So I expect to make the biggest gains there (the upper body that is). Also, keep in mind I'm quite heavy myself (6"2, 86kg) :)

Good luck on your squats.
 

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Arse to grass, no bouncing or lockouts.

And try a widowmaker while you're at it. :D

Semag mate, is there any protein in this thread?
 

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Originally posted by Warboss Alex
Semag mate, is there any protein in this thread?
I dunno... if there was, we might come back to find it gone, as you'd have devoured it.

LOL... I swear, sometimes you sound just like the In-Human himself ;)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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goin all the way down, right bro?
Yup. I have big legs and a big ass, ok? ;)

It's chest/tris day tomorrow. I'll see what I can do in flat bench and put it up here. It's surely not impressive... ;)
 

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Yep, I saw it. Just goes to show that strength gains = size gains, and that Dante's got it spot on (again).
 

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heh... maybe i should pull that out and make a post out for everyone to see (i doubt everyone reads this deep into threads...)
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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No, because 90% of people here would see his 'before' pic and go "Eww, I don't want to get that big and lose my sixpack!"

(when they're only really a buck sixty-five, if that.)
 

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lol....

hey now bro, when you start making fun of little people, don't get their bodyweights too high, remmeber i'm only pushin 200 lbs... gotta start somewhere :D

PS: I gotta go throw 2 eggs in a blender and a couple scoops of whey ;)
 

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Originally posted by Warboss Alex
Something I'm seriously having to reconsider at the moment ..
Exactly my sentiments on monday, as my head was pounding and i was feeling queasy.

Rump: The widowmaker method (as per Dante's instructions) goes like this -

1) work up to 6 reps by whatever weight you can do for 6. Let's use my numbers on monday, although i normally don't like to post numbers, because it makes me feel small :(

260x6
260x5 (failed on 6)

2) Then, we go to 70-80% of the weight and do 20 reps.

195 x 16 (failed, damnit, then reracked it) + 4
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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My workout today was completely pathetic. Like I wrote in the initial post of this thread, I have some problems with tris.

I started out with flat bench:

5x40kg

Then I felt "wtf - I'm just hitting my tris, not my pecs". So I tried changing to a wider grip - No difference, did some reps with varying grip. I could only feel weight in the tris all the time, nothing in my chest. So I added 10kg to see if I would feel anything in my chest - Nope.

5x50kg

I then moved on to incline DB bench to see if I could hit my chest, but no, tris were getting tired but still not feeling anything in the chest.

I was desperate to work my chest so I tried a few other exercises:

Dips 1x5 + 1x4 (only bw@87kg). This one felt mostly in the tris.

Seated flies (machine) 8x54kg + 6x61kg - This was the only place were I felt my pecs working a bit, but my arms were pretty tired already so I couldn't do it very well.

At the end I did some skullcrushers, just for the hell of it:
8x15kg
6x20kg


Wtf is wrong with my chest exercises???
 

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how wide is your grip on flat...
index finger on the rings?

Do some decline bench

make sure your shoulderblades are ****ed in and pulled back
 

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rumpsteak - stop lifting the bar up all the way!

at the bottom of the movement, the bar should be right at your chest level, then lift it up about 5 inches. don't lift it all the way up or strengthen your arms. that makes your tris work hard.

lifting the bar 5 inches up makes the pecs do most of the work, and tris barely come into play.

here is a photo of what I mean:

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v632/Mind_Over_Matter/benchright1.jpg

while the range of motion is small this way, you will find that it is much harder to do due to the fact your triceps barely help. this focuses 90% on pectorials. also, you will have to use lesser weights at first, since it's harder this way. don't worry about that, you will go up in numbers fast, and will have a much much better chest to show for it.
 

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Alright thanks for the tips guys. I extended my arms fully. I tried different grip widths but they all seemed to be messing with my tris instead. I'll try the 5 inch thing next time.

I don't think weight is the problem. I could have done 2x8x50kg but I felt it was useless since I would just kill my tris, thus I went on to try out other chest exercises and to find out what I did wrong. :)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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