"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Should I give up this fantasy?

rhcp83

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I've always had this fantasy of banging what I consider a "really hot girl" that wouldn't necessarily be relationship material. Even when I've dated other women that I liked, I still had that fantasy in the back of my mind.

You know the type I'm talking about...the blonde with the curvy butt and big tits that oozes sex appeal.

I don't have a problem attracting attractive/pretty/cute/hot women...but have never even been so much as checked out once by this type of woman...the "would turn your 70 year old grandfather's eyes" high maintenance type.

I'm wondering if I should just give up this fantasy. I'm 6 1, keep myself in shape, but I have a really average looking face that is also kind of dorky/nerdy, and my personality is similar (which women don't mind, but I get the impression those type of women would.)

I don't want any made up stories or exaggerations of a woman's hotness from guys on this board...I'm just wondering if you can be the type of guy I am and land a girl like this in bed?

I feel this is something I'd like to experience, even if once, and even in the future if I had another girlfriend my type who I liked blah blah blah but didn't have that sex appeal, part of me would still wonder what it was like to be with that type of woman.

It seems I always see these women (legit natural 9/10s) with other 9/10s, guys with money, or extremely muscular guys/men in uniform types. Is there any way to "game" a girl like this while being (in her eyes) an average guy? Maybe pretend to be rich? (I look good in a suit.)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Vice

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Your fantasy seems to be a victim of what society considers to be highly "attractive", therefore you don't think you're worthy of it because of your preconceived notions of what you think attracts these women.

Personally, I can't stand the type of women that you have a fantasy about, and would use them as pivots and wing girls to get the ones that I want.
 

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judging by how whiny and needy your post is, you don't deserve a girl like that. fantasizing about girls is stupid. step your game up and just holla at them until u get inside them. just dont talk to her about the chili peppers, hot girls rarely appreciate john frusciantes tasty guitar playing.
 

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Vice said:
Your fantasy seems to be a victim of what society considers to be highly "attractive", therefore you don't think you're worthy of it because of your preconceived notions of what you think attracts these women.

Personally, I can't stand the type of women that you have a fantasy about, and would use them as pivots and wing girls to get the ones that I want.
you cant stand women with big butts and fat tits? real talk?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If this is actually what you want you can do it. You might have to switch up your look, approach more, etc... But you can do it. I don't really see why you _need_ to, but don't tell yourself you can't. **** that.
 

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you are 6'1 - you can achive anything! ! .. I would give anything to be that height ..
 
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