"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Should i give her a chance?

gruby

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Meet this pretty French girl through my work. Lots of eye contact, some flirting, not much talk as i was busy. At the end of 3 day shoot asked for the number. SHe gave it to me. I knew she was going to shoot for next 1.5 week meaning she'll be exhausted to do anything. So i told her i'll call her after the mayhem is over. I called her, she didn't pick up. Was suprised as i detected really high IL, 2 days later i called again and left her a message.

Nothing. I nexted her.

Today (a week from that call) i was helping out a friend and ran in her. She was very apologetic for not calling as she was really busy (might as well but i think she should've called anyway) and promised to call after things calm down after Thanksgiving.

Well...? My IL already went down as she didn't call.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Pancho84

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next her. Only open up if she obviously opens up. show up with more women. show her who's in control here and whose loss it is..
 

Kaine

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Stop chasing her until she calls back.

If she does, great! The ball is in your court. Go out with her and show her a great time.

Just move on in the meantime and don't expect anything from her.
 

Chemistry

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Like you said your IL has gone down... or has it really?

If you're questioning whether you should let this girl back in on some might as well do tip then your IL is still where it's at before, you're just trying to incorporate some of the general principles from this board into the situation, without really wanting to next her...

Lets see if she calls... in the meantime occupy yourself with something else and forget her... if you still have IL in this girl at that point, then you might as well see what becomes of this...

As far as picking up goes or missing the call deliberately so you can call her back, there isn't a great deal of weight in either what will be crucial in converting this to somethin is going to be how you handle yourself on the phone... I would go into it but I'll assume you know, and if not then I'm sure it's all in the DJ Bible somewhere
 

Blue Phoenix

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I think this girl has some screws loose in her head!

She's Low interest level. It's not worth!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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gruby

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Yeah, while chiling with other girls i might as well give her a chance althou again what concerns me is that my IL went down and i might have hard time presenting it as high to her.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I could never understand guys that get enough 'open' signals from women that they ask for a number but yet when they get it, they wait so long to call, the woman looses interest!!! What the fvck gives???!!!:confused:
 
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