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Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Should I flirt with girls in front of the one I like

Kal0051

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Tricky situation here, I like this girl with a bf. I'm pretty sure she likes me; she's always hugging me, throwing me these looks, plus the fact that she likes talking to me and told me she finds me attractive. But the question isn't about whether or not she likes me, as long as she has a bf I'm not gonna make a move on her. The question I want answered is should I approach and flirt with other girls in front of her (we go clubbing together occasionally). I ask because I want to give her hints that I like her but if she sees me flirting with other girls she might think I do that with every girl (which I do, I'm kind of a flirt). Is there anyway I can approach other girls and still let her know that she's different from them (ie. I actually like her; and no I'm not gonna tell her, that's probably not a good idea). Thanks.
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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you should definitely flirt with other girls in front of her. It shows you can get other girls and it demonstrates higher value
 

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yeah, I thought it would be a good idea but I still don't want her to think she's just some girl I want to fvck, I'd like her to think I like her but never give it away until she ready to be done with her bf.
 

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It could go both ways

On one hand she might bet jealous. But she already has a bf, so her Needs are being met by him. You might not be important enough to garner such reaction

Or on the other hand, you come of as just a flirt who flirts with every girl.

Go with your gut.
 

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Ganondorf said:
Or on the other hand, you come of as just a flirt who flirts with every girl.
this is what I'm afraid of what would happen, I'm trying to get to know her better but I still like flirting and getting numbers from girls at clubs (it's fun, a boost to my ego, and kind of a game). I guess the perfect solution would be to not flirt with other girls while around her.
 

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You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Kal0051 said:
this is what I'm afraid of what would happen, I'm trying to get to know her better but I still like flirting and getting numbers from girls at clubs (it's fun, a boost to my ego, and kind of a game). I guess the perfect solution would be to not flirt with other girls while around her.

Lol well, you are not dating her. don't forget that

I apologize. I might have been over thinking things in my previous post

but you are single, and she has a bf. so it really wouldn't be wrong to flirt with other girls, even when she's around

You guys ain't engage or anything lol so i don't think it would hurt

I guess what i meant was, don't do it because you feel like it will make her like you more, because it might not, but do do it if that's what you like. Have fun with it, she's not your wife

Your single, so enjoy it lol
 

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lol, I'm not saying it's wrong for me to flirt with other girls, obviously I'm allowed since I'm single. I just don't want her lose interest in me because she might think I just flirt with every girl I see. And yeah I do enjoy flirting with girls, I have no expectation that it will make her like me more (I hate girls who try to make me jealous so I like them more...) but if it does happen then that's just a bonus. I guess I'm worrying about nothing.
 

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lol, well sometimes it's good to laugh at yourself and your stupid problem/worries.
 
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