"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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should I flake on this chick

ubercat

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I got a message on POF 15 minutes before the date from this Aussie chick saying that she was still at the gym. And that she had expected I would send a confirmation text.

I replied that I don't confirm I just do what I say I'm going to do.

Bottom line is that I've agreed to her being half an hour late for the date. I find the whole thing a bit disrespectful and frankly bloody typical of your modern euro woman. And Aussie girls aren't my favourite flavour. Only got 15 minutes to decide.

I'm wondering if I should just stand her up.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Waste of time. She turned up sick. And had 2 kids she d 'forgotten' to mention. Sat perched on the edge of the couch for the whole bloody date. And said she didn't drink just for fun. This is the second annoying chick I've had recently that said she didn't drink. Next one the dates over on the spot. Excused myself after 30 minutes while she was in mid story. I could see the smoke from the Hamster Wheel. Next.
 
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The look on her face when you left would have been a sight to see. But what else can you expect from POF?
 
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I had a situation similar to this from a tinder girl. We set the date at 5 30. I told her that I had an appointment at 7 30.

So I get to the bar and text her that I have a table. She calls me tells me she will be there at 6 30. Tries to gaslight me and say that's what we agreed to. I told her some other time as she apologized.

My appointment was another date. It went ok but i wasnt that enthused about it. At least she was on time.
 
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@dustmuffin on tinder at our age. You re a disgrace. ...and a legend ;-). and OMG an American chick rang me up yesterday. I have no idea where these threads come from about what to say to girls she just wouldn't shut up. And she seemed to be able to throw out multiple s*** tests without pause. We're meant to be going out on a date next Saturday. I will definitely give this one a strict hour slot. Also showed signs of baked in feminism 1 flash of that and I'm out the door.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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ubercat said:
@dustmuffin on tinder at our age. You re a disgrace. ...and a legend ;-). and OMG an American chick rang me up yesterday. I have no idea where these threads come from about what to say to girls she just wouldn't shut up. And she seemed to be able to throw out multiple s*** tests without pause. We're meant to be going out on a date next Saturday. I will definitely give this one a strict hour slot.
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it's pof bro, are you expecting someone who's not fvcked in the head? lol
 
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30 minsis admirable for a pof girl

My strategy when they show early disrespectful is to definitely continue the original planned date and make it a mission to bang her that night and then immediately either put your pants on, get up and leave or tell her she has to go because a friend just texted u he's in trouble and needs your help.

Pump and dump is extra fun with disrespectful online chicks.
 
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