Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Should I feel bad about this?

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I have a situation where I met this girl a while back. I could tell from the start that she really likes me. She came out and told me that she feels different about me than any other guy she's ever known.

Well here recently I have been feeling kinda lonely and horny. So I call her up and ask her to come over. This happened tonight. We ended up having sex. But afterwards I realize that I really don't like this girl at all.

She thinks that maybe sometime I might feel different towards her and want to start a relationship. The girl has been through a lot in her life and I kinda feel bad about leading her on all the time.

Should I appologize to her for treating her this way? Or should I feel bad at all?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i guess your right I just feel bad cause the girl has been through so much in her life.
 

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B-Real said:
Should I appologize to her for treating her this way? Or should I feel bad at all?
You shouldn't feel bad because up to this point you sort of liked her but after sex you lost interest and realised that you can do better. Trust me if the shoes were on the other foot she wouldn't think twice about feeling bad but rather think about new and exciting possible hookups with other men.

You are not responsible for the bad stuff that happened in her life, she is. It will however get worse if you pretend that you still like her and put up with this charade. Just end it and you will feel relieved and guilt free.
 

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ok i'll give a few days and end it cause i really don't see me going ANY farther with this girl. haha she has a boyfriend anyways so its not like she's gonna be lonely.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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B-Real said:
I have a situation where I met this girl a while back. I could tell from the start that she really likes me. She came out and told me that she feels different about me than any other guy she's ever known.

Well here recently I have been feeling kinda lonely and horny. So I call her up and ask her to come over. This happened tonight. We ended up having sex. But afterwards I realize that I really don't like this girl at all.

She thinks that maybe sometime I might feel different towards her and want to start a relationship. The girl has been through a lot in her life and I kinda feel bad about leading her on all the time.

Should I appologize to her for treating her this way? Or should I feel bad at all?

Holy **** that you for posting this. I am going through the exact same situation with another girl and I kinda felt like calling her up (for the same reasons). The sex would be nice but I don't even think I want to bother with her...
 
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