"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Should I feel bad about this?

B-Real

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I have a situation where I met this girl a while back. I could tell from the start that she really likes me. She came out and told me that she feels different about me than any other guy she's ever known.

Well here recently I have been feeling kinda lonely and horny. So I call her up and ask her to come over. This happened tonight. We ended up having sex. But afterwards I realize that I really don't like this girl at all.

She thinks that maybe sometime I might feel different towards her and want to start a relationship. The girl has been through a lot in her life and I kinda feel bad about leading her on all the time.

Should I appologize to her for treating her this way? Or should I feel bad at all?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i guess your right I just feel bad cause the girl has been through so much in her life.
 

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B-Real said:
Should I appologize to her for treating her this way? Or should I feel bad at all?
You shouldn't feel bad because up to this point you sort of liked her but after sex you lost interest and realised that you can do better. Trust me if the shoes were on the other foot she wouldn't think twice about feeling bad but rather think about new and exciting possible hookups with other men.

You are not responsible for the bad stuff that happened in her life, she is. It will however get worse if you pretend that you still like her and put up with this charade. Just end it and you will feel relieved and guilt free.
 

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ok i'll give a few days and end it cause i really don't see me going ANY farther with this girl. haha she has a boyfriend anyways so its not like she's gonna be lonely.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Jon55

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B-Real said:
I have a situation where I met this girl a while back. I could tell from the start that she really likes me. She came out and told me that she feels different about me than any other guy she's ever known.

Well here recently I have been feeling kinda lonely and horny. So I call her up and ask her to come over. This happened tonight. We ended up having sex. But afterwards I realize that I really don't like this girl at all.

She thinks that maybe sometime I might feel different towards her and want to start a relationship. The girl has been through a lot in her life and I kinda feel bad about leading her on all the time.

Should I appologize to her for treating her this way? Or should I feel bad at all?

Holy **** that you for posting this. I am going through the exact same situation with another girl and I kinda felt like calling her up (for the same reasons). The sex would be nice but I don't even think I want to bother with her...
 
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