"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Should I explain myself to this girl

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Hey guys, I was friendzoned by a girl about 3 months ago after which I went No Contact. She calls me 2 days ago asking to meet up with me. I tell her to meet me on friday evening. We meet up have some small talk and she keeps asking if I have a gf now to which I just smiled.

About 15 minutes into the meet, I get a phone call from and had to leave immediately. While I was leaving, she asked me again if I had a gf now, to which I replied: I did ask a girl out 3 months ago but she wasn't interested (obv. referring to her) and smiled and left. Now she didn't get the joke and actually thinks I was rejected by someone else.

Should I clarify (that I was referring to her) coz it kind of puts me in a bad light and I dont want that. She was showing a lot of interest before this.

Edit: Sorry didn't introduce myself: Long time lurker and a big fan of the DJ bible and this site :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She's an idiot... And I wouldn't clarify it to her because she is already showing you that her interest in you is coming back up. Saying that it was her will probably only backfire for you since she will assume that other girls are not finding you attractive. The ball is in your court. Try again or next it.
 
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No explanation needed, sometimes people show their value by how well they understand social interaction. See where it takes you, carry on.
 
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I was thinking of going the same way, just needed some validation I guess. Thanks a lot guys :)
 
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Shoulda said you were taking applications. Do you plan to see her again? What is your next step Don Juan?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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She's already interested and wants to meet again. We'll see how it goes although Im pretty sure it'll end well but even if it doesn't, Its not like I have something to lose here.
 
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