"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Should I explain myself to this girl

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Hey guys, I was friendzoned by a girl about 3 months ago after which I went No Contact. She calls me 2 days ago asking to meet up with me. I tell her to meet me on friday evening. We meet up have some small talk and she keeps asking if I have a gf now to which I just smiled.

About 15 minutes into the meet, I get a phone call from and had to leave immediately. While I was leaving, she asked me again if I had a gf now, to which I replied: I did ask a girl out 3 months ago but she wasn't interested (obv. referring to her) and smiled and left. Now she didn't get the joke and actually thinks I was rejected by someone else.

Should I clarify (that I was referring to her) coz it kind of puts me in a bad light and I dont want that. She was showing a lot of interest before this.

Edit: Sorry didn't introduce myself: Long time lurker and a big fan of the DJ bible and this site :)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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She's an idiot... And I wouldn't clarify it to her because she is already showing you that her interest in you is coming back up. Saying that it was her will probably only backfire for you since she will assume that other girls are not finding you attractive. The ball is in your court. Try again or next it.
 
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No explanation needed, sometimes people show their value by how well they understand social interaction. See where it takes you, carry on.
 
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I was thinking of going the same way, just needed some validation I guess. Thanks a lot guys :)
 
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Shoulda said you were taking applications. Do you plan to see her again? What is your next step Don Juan?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She's already interested and wants to meet again. We'll see how it goes although Im pretty sure it'll end well but even if it doesn't, Its not like I have something to lose here.
 
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