"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Should I do this?

Desdinova

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So, I've got a child-free Friday night coming up in a couple of weeks. This is a rarity, and I'm hoping to make the best of it. Me and my gf have never gone out and got drunk together, and this is what we're wanting to do. She'll finally be spending the night :)

The place we plan on going to is about a 10 minute walk from my house. We can easily go there and stumble home, no driving required. Sounds great, right?

The problem is last gf hangs out there regularly on Friday night. There is no doubt that she's going to be there. She was pretty crazy about me and I dumped her two months ago for my current gf. I talked with one of me and my ex's mutual friends last night and apparently she's still really pi5sed at me.

On the plus side, when I've been in situations like this before, the dirty looks and evil stares from the unhappy party give the new girl an energetic shot of IL. Women love to be envied, and the fact that someone hates her for winning The Prize makes her feel absolutely grand.

I don't think anything truly awful can happen from this situation, but I figured I'd get some input from you guys.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Desdinova said:
She was pretty crazy about me and I dumped her two months ago for my current gf.
Do you mean girlfriend girlfriend or "one of my plates"? I was wondering if I missed one of your posts.

You know the girl and the venue better than we do. As long as you don't think anything truly awful can happen, I don't see a reason to avoid the place. If she was that crazy about you, she might try to put on a show for you, stir up some sh!t, or maybe even leave. I agree it could be interesting for the new girl/create some drama.

For me, I'd probably be more comfortable someplace else where she isn't at. But I guess the 10 minute walk makes it the best place.
 

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zekko said:
Do you mean girlfriend girlfriend or "one of my plates"? I was wondering if I missed one of your posts.
I was with her for nine months. She wanted to move in, eventually get married, and wanted to have kids. Although I made it clear from the get-go that I didn't want any of that, she still persisted. She's 34 with an agenda and is a medicated bi-polar. She was pretty pissed off when I ended it.
 

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Desdinova said:
I was with her for nine months. She wanted to move in, eventually get married, and wanted to have kids. Although I made it clear from the get-go that I didn't want any of that, she still persisted. She's 34 with an agenda and is a medicated bi-polar. She was pretty pissed off when I ended it.
I do remember that. I was actually asking more about your new girlfriend. Is this the 22 year old?

If this forum is correct, she should be able to find some AFC to settle down with. Though that's probably little comfort for losing the real catch.

You sound like you've got about the same attitude as George Clooney. After his first (and only) marriage failed, he was done with it and said he wouldn't do it again.
 

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Yes, you should.

You're a man and you live YOUR life. Who cares that she is there (if she is there) at the same time.

If she confronts you, deal with it how you would and move to another place in the bar.

Your only worry is that it might get uncomfortable for your girlfriend, but at the same time, if she's getting drunk, you could see her whoop some a$$.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Do you wanna have a stress free fun night out without injecting any unneeded and unpredictable drama?

Take a taxi to another place.
 

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Pair A Dice said:
Yes, you should.

You're a man and you live YOUR life. Who cares that she is there (if she is there) at the same time.
taiyuu_otoko said:
Do you wanna have a stress free fun night out without injecting any unneeded and unpredictable drama?

Take a taxi to another place.
These are two conflicting, and yet perfectly correct pieces of advice, IMO.

Do you want to go with the alpha "I go wherever I want, change my plans for no woman" or just want a peaceful night? Pick one.
 

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Whats the big thrill in going out getting drunk together?
 

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zekko said:
Do you want to go with the alpha "I go wherever I want, change my plans for no woman" or just want a peaceful night? Pick one.
The way I see it, the night isn't about my ex (although she may want to make it that way). It's about me going out and having fun at a place I like to go.

Whats the big thrill in going out getting drunk together?
I enjoy it once in a while and so does she. I'm usually the one who has to stay sober because I'm driving. On that night, I won't have to.

Not only that, getting your woman drunk can tell you a LOT about her personality. If she turns into a drunken wh0re, she gets dumped.
 
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