"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

Should I do this?

Desdinova

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 15, 2004
Messages
11,680
Reaction score
4,877
So, I've got a child-free Friday night coming up in a couple of weeks. This is a rarity, and I'm hoping to make the best of it. Me and my gf have never gone out and got drunk together, and this is what we're wanting to do. She'll finally be spending the night :)

The place we plan on going to is about a 10 minute walk from my house. We can easily go there and stumble home, no driving required. Sounds great, right?

The problem is last gf hangs out there regularly on Friday night. There is no doubt that she's going to be there. She was pretty crazy about me and I dumped her two months ago for my current gf. I talked with one of me and my ex's mutual friends last night and apparently she's still really pi5sed at me.

On the plus side, when I've been in situations like this before, the dirty looks and evil stares from the unhappy party give the new girl an energetic shot of IL. Women love to be envied, and the fact that someone hates her for winning The Prize makes her feel absolutely grand.

I don't think anything truly awful can happen from this situation, but I figured I'd get some input from you guys.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

Read more...

zekko

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 6, 2009
Messages
16,797
Reaction score
10,027
Desdinova said:
She was pretty crazy about me and I dumped her two months ago for my current gf.
Do you mean girlfriend girlfriend or "one of my plates"? I was wondering if I missed one of your posts.

You know the girl and the venue better than we do. As long as you don't think anything truly awful can happen, I don't see a reason to avoid the place. If she was that crazy about you, she might try to put on a show for you, stir up some sh!t, or maybe even leave. I agree it could be interesting for the new girl/create some drama.

For me, I'd probably be more comfortable someplace else where she isn't at. But I guess the 10 minute walk makes it the best place.
 

Desdinova

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 15, 2004
Messages
11,680
Reaction score
4,877
zekko said:
Do you mean girlfriend girlfriend or "one of my plates"? I was wondering if I missed one of your posts.
I was with her for nine months. She wanted to move in, eventually get married, and wanted to have kids. Although I made it clear from the get-go that I didn't want any of that, she still persisted. She's 34 with an agenda and is a medicated bi-polar. She was pretty pissed off when I ended it.
 

zekko

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 6, 2009
Messages
16,797
Reaction score
10,027
Desdinova said:
I was with her for nine months. She wanted to move in, eventually get married, and wanted to have kids. Although I made it clear from the get-go that I didn't want any of that, she still persisted. She's 34 with an agenda and is a medicated bi-polar. She was pretty pissed off when I ended it.
I do remember that. I was actually asking more about your new girlfriend. Is this the 22 year old?

If this forum is correct, she should be able to find some AFC to settle down with. Though that's probably little comfort for losing the real catch.

You sound like you've got about the same attitude as George Clooney. After his first (and only) marriage failed, he was done with it and said he wouldn't do it again.
 

Pair A Dice

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 22, 2011
Messages
163
Reaction score
3
Yes, you should.

You're a man and you live YOUR life. Who cares that she is there (if she is there) at the same time.

If she confronts you, deal with it how you would and move to another place in the bar.

Your only worry is that it might get uncomfortable for your girlfriend, but at the same time, if she's getting drunk, you could see her whoop some a$$.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

taiyuu_otoko

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 10, 2008
Messages
5,776
Reaction score
4,880
Location
象外
Do you wanna have a stress free fun night out without injecting any unneeded and unpredictable drama?

Take a taxi to another place.
 

zekko

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 6, 2009
Messages
16,797
Reaction score
10,027
Pair A Dice said:
Yes, you should.

You're a man and you live YOUR life. Who cares that she is there (if she is there) at the same time.
taiyuu_otoko said:
Do you wanna have a stress free fun night out without injecting any unneeded and unpredictable drama?

Take a taxi to another place.
These are two conflicting, and yet perfectly correct pieces of advice, IMO.

Do you want to go with the alpha "I go wherever I want, change my plans for no woman" or just want a peaceful night? Pick one.
 

Zunder

Banned
Joined
Jun 6, 2009
Messages
897
Reaction score
66
Whats the big thrill in going out getting drunk together?
 

Desdinova

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 15, 2004
Messages
11,680
Reaction score
4,877
zekko said:
Do you want to go with the alpha "I go wherever I want, change my plans for no woman" or just want a peaceful night? Pick one.
The way I see it, the night isn't about my ex (although she may want to make it that way). It's about me going out and having fun at a place I like to go.

Whats the big thrill in going out getting drunk together?
I enjoy it once in a while and so does she. I'm usually the one who has to stay sober because I'm driving. On that night, I won't have to.

Not only that, getting your woman drunk can tell you a LOT about her personality. If she turns into a drunken wh0re, she gets dumped.
 
Top