"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Im in the military and my neighber's boyfriend is stationd overseas for 6+ months. She is very aggressive and flirty with everyone. Some nights she even sleeps in my room. There is more than just sleeping going on too. HINT Hint. I usually ask her what her boyfrined would think and she never gives me an answer. She continues to to be seductive. Two days in a row she knocks on the door right after im in the shower. She asks me if she could get in the shower wit me next time. I wouldnt have a problem but she isnt my girl. I can have her any time i want but should i continue to creep wit her or leave her alone? Someone help me because I my mind is saying no but my third leg is telling me yes.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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She asks me if she could get in the shower wit me next time. I wouldnt have a problem but she isnt my girl
This part suggests that you feel guilty of being intimate with her.

However...

Some nights she even sleeps in my room. There is more than just sleeping going on too. HINT Hint.
This if i'm reading it right, contradicts your guilt feelings.

You need to expand on what you're saying. Do you feel worried that you'll grow feelings for her? If a fvck buddy is all you're looking for than i say just go for it, but i wouldn't pursue a relationship with this girl.
 

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I say your doing your friend a favor. And almost all military girlfriends cheat. WOmen need attention, and if the guy is gone for 6 months, what does he expect. And do you think he's over there strokin it to pictures of her? You just keepin it warm for him.
 

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do you not have any other girls you can go for instead?
 

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i have other girls but not near me like my neighbor is. My neighbr and i are literally walls apart from each other. I ignore her most times. I never act needy around her. I treat her like a normal person. This causes her to be even more agressive sometimes. i do feel guilty 40% of the time. on the scale of 1 to ten, she is probaly a 6.5. I forgot to add that she even wants to go on vacation with me next summer. Just me and her. She tells me all the time not to forget about the vacation. I usually ignore her.
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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i have other girls but my neighbr and i are literally walls apart. I ignore her most times. I never act needy around her. I treat her like a normal person. This causes her to be even more agressive.
 
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