"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I met this woman on a online dating site.We went on three dates and hooked up on the third on a Saturday.I contacted her Monday and asked her out for Tuesday or Thursday.She said a family member was having surgery Tuesday and she would contact me Wednesday.She contacted Thursday
and said the weekend was best for her.I tried to set a date Friday and she said contact her Saturday or Sunday so we could get together.I sent message Saturday around noon.She contacted Sunday morning and said she was going to take the day for herself because she had spent all weekend with a family member.I said cool let me know when you are free to meet up.She said to enjoy my day and that she would let know what days look good this week.This was Sunday and now its Thursday evening.No message yet.What would you guys do?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I met this woman on a online dating site.We went on three dates and hooked up on the third on a Saturday.I contacted her Monday and asked her out for Tuesday or Thursday.She said a family member was having surgery Tuesday and she would contact me Wednesday.She contacted Thursday
and said the weekend was best for her.I tried to set a date Friday and she said contact her Saturday or Sunday so we could get together.I sent message Saturday around noon.She contacted Sunday morning and said she was going to take the day for herself because she had spent all weekend with a family member.I said cool let me know when you are free to meet up.She said to enjoy my day and that she would let know what days look good this week.This was Sunday and now its Thursday evening.No message yet.What would you guys do?
Don't think so much. Stop worrying. Get BUSY because you obviously have to much time on your hands. Focus on your purpose.

Honestly why not contact her? If you really think that contacting her or not will make or break it, it's probably already almost broken.

Edit: i just actually read your whole post. No let it go for now. Regardless at least you already hit it so in my opinion you've already won. Your up now, so don't over invest in her. It's better that you walk away now than invest even more and get rejected.
 

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the girl obviously putting u on her orbit... if she wants you.. shes already there.. for now get another girl or get busy
 

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Sounds as though she has a lot going on at this time in her life. Her family memeber just had surgery. New dates are not a priority. Someone’s life could be at stake.

I would give her space right now and pursue other women. If you’re still interested By next Wednesday, send a message if you’re so inclined. Let this heavy emotion which seems to be in her life dissipate a little so as to free up some space.
If she messages you before then, suggest a time and day for a date as your first response, then let her respond. If she doesn’t respond or bails on that date, let go of her completely, as it’s not ideal for you.
 

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I met this woman on a online dating site.We went on three dates and hooked up on the third on a Saturday.I contacted her Monday and asked her out for Tuesday or Thursday.She said a family member was having surgery Tuesday and she would contact me Wednesday.She contacted Thursday
and said the weekend was best for her.I tried to set a date Friday and she said contact her Saturday or Sunday so we could get together.I sent message Saturday around noon.She contacted Sunday morning and said she was going to take the day for herself because she had spent all weekend with a family member.I said cool let me know when you are free to meet up.She said to enjoy my day and that she would let know what days look good this week.This was Sunday and now its Thursday evening.No message yet.What would you guys do?

This girls's IL is lower then the level of the Dead Sea . Girl who genuinely interested in you will move mountains to make it work, This girl hardly willing to move a pebble .
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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This girls's IL is lower then the level of the Dead Sea . Girl who genuinely interested in you will move mountains to make it work, This girl hardly willing to move a pebble .
so true
 

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Ugh!
She is not serious about you at all.
Imagine if this was your job and you're calling to find out about your hours scheduled for next week and they keep giving you the runaround or avoiding you completely.
Wouldn't you believe you were fired by now?
 

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I met this woman on a online dating site.We went on three dates and hooked up on the third on a Saturday.I contacted her Monday and asked her out for Tuesday or Thursday.She said a family member was having surgery Tuesday and she would contact me Wednesday.She contacted Thursday
and said the weekend was best for her.I tried to set a date Friday and she said contact her Saturday or Sunday so we could get together.I sent message Saturday around noon.She contacted Sunday morning and said she was going to take the day for herself because she had spent all weekend with a family member.I said cool let me know when you are free to meet up.She said to enjoy my day and that she would let know what days look good this week.This was Sunday and now its Thursday evening.No message yet.What would you guys do?
Also.. if you hooked up Saturday and that was last contact, did it not go well? Any issues? What was her disposition at the end of the night?
 
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Also.. if you hooked up Saturday and that was last contact, did it not go well? Any issues? What was her disposition at the end of the night?
Also.. if you hooked up Saturday and that was last contact, did it not go well? Any issues? What was her disposition at the end of the night?
It went ok and she sent me a message that night thanking me for a lovely time
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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