"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I met this woman on a online dating site.We went on three dates and hooked up on the third on a Saturday.I contacted her Monday and asked her out for Tuesday or Thursday.She said a family member was having surgery Tuesday and she would contact me Wednesday.She contacted Thursday
and said the weekend was best for her.I tried to set a date Friday and she said contact her Saturday or Sunday so we could get together.I sent message Saturday around noon.She contacted Sunday morning and said she was going to take the day for herself because she had spent all weekend with a family member.I said cool let me know when you are free to meet up.She said to enjoy my day and that she would let know what days look good this week.This was Sunday and now its Thursday evening.No message yet.What would you guys do?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I met this woman on a online dating site.We went on three dates and hooked up on the third on a Saturday.I contacted her Monday and asked her out for Tuesday or Thursday.She said a family member was having surgery Tuesday and she would contact me Wednesday.She contacted Thursday
and said the weekend was best for her.I tried to set a date Friday and she said contact her Saturday or Sunday so we could get together.I sent message Saturday around noon.She contacted Sunday morning and said she was going to take the day for herself because she had spent all weekend with a family member.I said cool let me know when you are free to meet up.She said to enjoy my day and that she would let know what days look good this week.This was Sunday and now its Thursday evening.No message yet.What would you guys do?
Don't think so much. Stop worrying. Get BUSY because you obviously have to much time on your hands. Focus on your purpose.

Honestly why not contact her? If you really think that contacting her or not will make or break it, it's probably already almost broken.

Edit: i just actually read your whole post. No let it go for now. Regardless at least you already hit it so in my opinion you've already won. Your up now, so don't over invest in her. It's better that you walk away now than invest even more and get rejected.
 

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the girl obviously putting u on her orbit... if she wants you.. shes already there.. for now get another girl or get busy
 

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Sounds as though she has a lot going on at this time in her life. Her family memeber just had surgery. New dates are not a priority. Someone’s life could be at stake.

I would give her space right now and pursue other women. If you’re still interested By next Wednesday, send a message if you’re so inclined. Let this heavy emotion which seems to be in her life dissipate a little so as to free up some space.
If she messages you before then, suggest a time and day for a date as your first response, then let her respond. If she doesn’t respond or bails on that date, let go of her completely, as it’s not ideal for you.
 

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I met this woman on a online dating site.We went on three dates and hooked up on the third on a Saturday.I contacted her Monday and asked her out for Tuesday or Thursday.She said a family member was having surgery Tuesday and she would contact me Wednesday.She contacted Thursday
and said the weekend was best for her.I tried to set a date Friday and she said contact her Saturday or Sunday so we could get together.I sent message Saturday around noon.She contacted Sunday morning and said she was going to take the day for herself because she had spent all weekend with a family member.I said cool let me know when you are free to meet up.She said to enjoy my day and that she would let know what days look good this week.This was Sunday and now its Thursday evening.No message yet.What would you guys do?

This girls's IL is lower then the level of the Dead Sea . Girl who genuinely interested in you will move mountains to make it work, This girl hardly willing to move a pebble .
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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This girls's IL is lower then the level of the Dead Sea . Girl who genuinely interested in you will move mountains to make it work, This girl hardly willing to move a pebble .
so true
 

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Ugh!
She is not serious about you at all.
Imagine if this was your job and you're calling to find out about your hours scheduled for next week and they keep giving you the runaround or avoiding you completely.
Wouldn't you believe you were fired by now?
 

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I met this woman on a online dating site.We went on three dates and hooked up on the third on a Saturday.I contacted her Monday and asked her out for Tuesday or Thursday.She said a family member was having surgery Tuesday and she would contact me Wednesday.She contacted Thursday
and said the weekend was best for her.I tried to set a date Friday and she said contact her Saturday or Sunday so we could get together.I sent message Saturday around noon.She contacted Sunday morning and said she was going to take the day for herself because she had spent all weekend with a family member.I said cool let me know when you are free to meet up.She said to enjoy my day and that she would let know what days look good this week.This was Sunday and now its Thursday evening.No message yet.What would you guys do?
Also.. if you hooked up Saturday and that was last contact, did it not go well? Any issues? What was her disposition at the end of the night?
 
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Also.. if you hooked up Saturday and that was last contact, did it not go well? Any issues? What was her disposition at the end of the night?
Also.. if you hooked up Saturday and that was last contact, did it not go well? Any issues? What was her disposition at the end of the night?
It went ok and she sent me a message that night thanking me for a lovely time
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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