"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Should I completely next/nc a girl who blew me off?

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I posted about this girl previously. Basically, I met this girl once, thought we hit it off, and asked her out on Friday. She agreed, but then cancelled on the day claiming work commitments (which was possible). She then texts Friday evening, saying she is sorry she had to cancel, and asked if I was free on Saturday. I agree (I know, mistake!) and we make plans to meet. On Saturday, 40 minutes before we were supposed to meet, she texts saying she is not sure if she can meet because her friends have other plans, and asks where we are supposed to be going. I tell her to meet at a nightclub in the city at 9:30. By this point, I could feel the flakiness coming, so I instead went to a nearby bar with a friend (which I am glad I did as I met up with a girl with whom I am meeting for drinks tonight). After midnight, she texts me saying her friends want to stay where they are but she "hopes I have a good night".

At this point, I want to next and no-contact her, delete her from Facebook etc. However, we do not have similar social circles so if I do so, she may well not notice. On the other hand, I know that she is new to my city and looking for social opportunities and my Facebook profile provides a lot of social proof as I organise a lot of social events for the students at my uni. Should I no-contact/next her entirely and remove her from my FB? Or should I leave her on so she can continue to observe my social proof but otherwise ignore her as that may give her more incentive to try to win me back?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Don't EVEN think about winning her back at this point. She has expressed disinterest, leave her alone. Don't delete her from fb, that's dramatic. It's not like you guys just left an LTR.
 
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You're thinking about it too much.

I personally think it's ridiculous to delete a girl from your facebook just because she rejected you.

The only reason I could see doing it is if you guys were in a longer relationship and you feel tempted to click her facebook and obsessively "check up" on her. This inevitably leads to jealousy, stalking, and bad things overall.

But if you just met this girl, there's no use going that extreme...Just be friendly and polite towards her, but don't try and hang out with her again.

I personally would not delete the number. I would just forget about her completely, and go for other chicks.

If you can't forget about her completely without deleting her number and unfriending her on facebook, then I guess you have your answer. Right?
 
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JLW said:
You're thinking about it too much.

I personally think it's ridiculous to delete a girl from your facebook just because she rejected you.

The only reason I could see doing it is if you guys were in a longer relationship and you feel tempted to click her facebook and obsessively "check up" on her. This inevitably leads to jealousy, stalking, and bad things overall.

But if you just met this girl, there's no use going that extreme...Just be friendly and polite towards her, but don't try and hang out with her again.

I personally would not delete the number. I would just forget about her completely, and go for other chicks.

If you can't forget about her completely without deleting her number and unfriending her on facebook, then I guess you have your answer. Right?
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this is spot on.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Simple SOP for Dummies -
IF a girl flakes on you ( not showing up for a meetup without a call or a text), hit delete.

IF she calls or texts you before the date and cancels with a reasonable explanation she gets one more chance.
IF she cancels a second time, hit delete.
 
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i don't see what the big deal is about deleting someone from your facebook anyways. it's facebook for God sakes! i do it all the time. it's no different then deleting a phone number from your phone. it's not like you went and poisned her lap dog, burned her house down, slapped her in the face or anything. you just don't want anything to do with the stupid b!tch anymore so you removed her from all aspects of your life. if she was interested and didn't keep flaking on you, or showed a little bit of interest her @$$ would still be on your facebook, in your phone, in your life....wouldn't she? f**k her and all of her "other plans that have come up".
 
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yea i delete *****es that reject me too. why be apart of the hundreds of losers on her friends list trying to **** her. delete her so you dont have to see any of her stupid updates anymore.
 
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The point is that you should not care enough either way to delete her from your facebook. The very effort of unfriending her should be more effort than it is worth.

If you find yourself wanting to check up on her and looking at her facebook and thinking "maybe I still have a chance with her", however, then it is probably a good idea to unfriend her for your own personal health.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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All good advice guys.

However, I think the piece of advice that gave me the most insight was from
a female friend. Her advice was "Delete her straight away from FB to show her how pissed off you are at her behaviour". This comment helped me realise that I should delete her off my facebook ... if I wanted to behave like an upset woman. On the other hand, as a man, I should probably just ignore the slight (as rude as it was) and only call her on it if she tries to contact me. Of course, the best way to have her try to contact me is to keep leading as full and satisfying a life as possible, one which any person would want to be part of ... :)
 
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Who gives a fvck if she notices shes not your facebook friend honestly. NEXT NEXT NEXT NEXT NEXT. No contact means removing all contact with her not to make her see the error of her ways but to keep you from bothering with it.

Seriously I had a chick I was banging remove me from her facebook and I didn't even notice until we were at the same bar and she said something about it, because I honestly could care less. It doesn't work that way.

Just next her, don't talk to her, don't text, don't IM, there are more dames who are more interesting and more fun and won't disrespect you multiple times in the period of two days..
 
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