"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Should I completely next/nc a girl who blew me off?

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I posted about this girl previously. Basically, I met this girl once, thought we hit it off, and asked her out on Friday. She agreed, but then cancelled on the day claiming work commitments (which was possible). She then texts Friday evening, saying she is sorry she had to cancel, and asked if I was free on Saturday. I agree (I know, mistake!) and we make plans to meet. On Saturday, 40 minutes before we were supposed to meet, she texts saying she is not sure if she can meet because her friends have other plans, and asks where we are supposed to be going. I tell her to meet at a nightclub in the city at 9:30. By this point, I could feel the flakiness coming, so I instead went to a nearby bar with a friend (which I am glad I did as I met up with a girl with whom I am meeting for drinks tonight). After midnight, she texts me saying her friends want to stay where they are but she "hopes I have a good night".

At this point, I want to next and no-contact her, delete her from Facebook etc. However, we do not have similar social circles so if I do so, she may well not notice. On the other hand, I know that she is new to my city and looking for social opportunities and my Facebook profile provides a lot of social proof as I organise a lot of social events for the students at my uni. Should I no-contact/next her entirely and remove her from my FB? Or should I leave her on so she can continue to observe my social proof but otherwise ignore her as that may give her more incentive to try to win me back?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Don't EVEN think about winning her back at this point. She has expressed disinterest, leave her alone. Don't delete her from fb, that's dramatic. It's not like you guys just left an LTR.
 
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You're thinking about it too much.

I personally think it's ridiculous to delete a girl from your facebook just because she rejected you.

The only reason I could see doing it is if you guys were in a longer relationship and you feel tempted to click her facebook and obsessively "check up" on her. This inevitably leads to jealousy, stalking, and bad things overall.

But if you just met this girl, there's no use going that extreme...Just be friendly and polite towards her, but don't try and hang out with her again.

I personally would not delete the number. I would just forget about her completely, and go for other chicks.

If you can't forget about her completely without deleting her number and unfriending her on facebook, then I guess you have your answer. Right?
 
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JLW said:
You're thinking about it too much.

I personally think it's ridiculous to delete a girl from your facebook just because she rejected you.

The only reason I could see doing it is if you guys were in a longer relationship and you feel tempted to click her facebook and obsessively "check up" on her. This inevitably leads to jealousy, stalking, and bad things overall.

But if you just met this girl, there's no use going that extreme...Just be friendly and polite towards her, but don't try and hang out with her again.

I personally would not delete the number. I would just forget about her completely, and go for other chicks.

If you can't forget about her completely without deleting her number and unfriending her on facebook, then I guess you have your answer. Right?
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this is spot on.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Simple SOP for Dummies -
IF a girl flakes on you ( not showing up for a meetup without a call or a text), hit delete.

IF she calls or texts you before the date and cancels with a reasonable explanation she gets one more chance.
IF she cancels a second time, hit delete.
 
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i don't see what the big deal is about deleting someone from your facebook anyways. it's facebook for God sakes! i do it all the time. it's no different then deleting a phone number from your phone. it's not like you went and poisned her lap dog, burned her house down, slapped her in the face or anything. you just don't want anything to do with the stupid b!tch anymore so you removed her from all aspects of your life. if she was interested and didn't keep flaking on you, or showed a little bit of interest her @$$ would still be on your facebook, in your phone, in your life....wouldn't she? f**k her and all of her "other plans that have come up".
 
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yea i delete *****es that reject me too. why be apart of the hundreds of losers on her friends list trying to **** her. delete her so you dont have to see any of her stupid updates anymore.
 
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The point is that you should not care enough either way to delete her from your facebook. The very effort of unfriending her should be more effort than it is worth.

If you find yourself wanting to check up on her and looking at her facebook and thinking "maybe I still have a chance with her", however, then it is probably a good idea to unfriend her for your own personal health.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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All good advice guys.

However, I think the piece of advice that gave me the most insight was from
a female friend. Her advice was "Delete her straight away from FB to show her how pissed off you are at her behaviour". This comment helped me realise that I should delete her off my facebook ... if I wanted to behave like an upset woman. On the other hand, as a man, I should probably just ignore the slight (as rude as it was) and only call her on it if she tries to contact me. Of course, the best way to have her try to contact me is to keep leading as full and satisfying a life as possible, one which any person would want to be part of ... :)
 
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Who gives a fvck if she notices shes not your facebook friend honestly. NEXT NEXT NEXT NEXT NEXT. No contact means removing all contact with her not to make her see the error of her ways but to keep you from bothering with it.

Seriously I had a chick I was banging remove me from her facebook and I didn't even notice until we were at the same bar and she said something about it, because I honestly could care less. It doesn't work that way.

Just next her, don't talk to her, don't text, don't IM, there are more dames who are more interesting and more fun and won't disrespect you multiple times in the period of two days..
 
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