"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Should I completely next/nc a girl who blew me off?

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I posted about this girl previously. Basically, I met this girl once, thought we hit it off, and asked her out on Friday. She agreed, but then cancelled on the day claiming work commitments (which was possible). She then texts Friday evening, saying she is sorry she had to cancel, and asked if I was free on Saturday. I agree (I know, mistake!) and we make plans to meet. On Saturday, 40 minutes before we were supposed to meet, she texts saying she is not sure if she can meet because her friends have other plans, and asks where we are supposed to be going. I tell her to meet at a nightclub in the city at 9:30. By this point, I could feel the flakiness coming, so I instead went to a nearby bar with a friend (which I am glad I did as I met up with a girl with whom I am meeting for drinks tonight). After midnight, she texts me saying her friends want to stay where they are but she "hopes I have a good night".

At this point, I want to next and no-contact her, delete her from Facebook etc. However, we do not have similar social circles so if I do so, she may well not notice. On the other hand, I know that she is new to my city and looking for social opportunities and my Facebook profile provides a lot of social proof as I organise a lot of social events for the students at my uni. Should I no-contact/next her entirely and remove her from my FB? Or should I leave her on so she can continue to observe my social proof but otherwise ignore her as that may give her more incentive to try to win me back?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Don't EVEN think about winning her back at this point. She has expressed disinterest, leave her alone. Don't delete her from fb, that's dramatic. It's not like you guys just left an LTR.
 
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You're thinking about it too much.

I personally think it's ridiculous to delete a girl from your facebook just because she rejected you.

The only reason I could see doing it is if you guys were in a longer relationship and you feel tempted to click her facebook and obsessively "check up" on her. This inevitably leads to jealousy, stalking, and bad things overall.

But if you just met this girl, there's no use going that extreme...Just be friendly and polite towards her, but don't try and hang out with her again.

I personally would not delete the number. I would just forget about her completely, and go for other chicks.

If you can't forget about her completely without deleting her number and unfriending her on facebook, then I guess you have your answer. Right?
 
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JLW said:
You're thinking about it too much.

I personally think it's ridiculous to delete a girl from your facebook just because she rejected you.

The only reason I could see doing it is if you guys were in a longer relationship and you feel tempted to click her facebook and obsessively "check up" on her. This inevitably leads to jealousy, stalking, and bad things overall.

But if you just met this girl, there's no use going that extreme...Just be friendly and polite towards her, but don't try and hang out with her again.

I personally would not delete the number. I would just forget about her completely, and go for other chicks.

If you can't forget about her completely without deleting her number and unfriending her on facebook, then I guess you have your answer. Right?
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this is spot on.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Simple SOP for Dummies -
IF a girl flakes on you ( not showing up for a meetup without a call or a text), hit delete.

IF she calls or texts you before the date and cancels with a reasonable explanation she gets one more chance.
IF she cancels a second time, hit delete.
 
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i don't see what the big deal is about deleting someone from your facebook anyways. it's facebook for God sakes! i do it all the time. it's no different then deleting a phone number from your phone. it's not like you went and poisned her lap dog, burned her house down, slapped her in the face or anything. you just don't want anything to do with the stupid b!tch anymore so you removed her from all aspects of your life. if she was interested and didn't keep flaking on you, or showed a little bit of interest her @$$ would still be on your facebook, in your phone, in your life....wouldn't she? f**k her and all of her "other plans that have come up".
 
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yea i delete *****es that reject me too. why be apart of the hundreds of losers on her friends list trying to **** her. delete her so you dont have to see any of her stupid updates anymore.
 
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The point is that you should not care enough either way to delete her from your facebook. The very effort of unfriending her should be more effort than it is worth.

If you find yourself wanting to check up on her and looking at her facebook and thinking "maybe I still have a chance with her", however, then it is probably a good idea to unfriend her for your own personal health.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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All good advice guys.

However, I think the piece of advice that gave me the most insight was from
a female friend. Her advice was "Delete her straight away from FB to show her how pissed off you are at her behaviour". This comment helped me realise that I should delete her off my facebook ... if I wanted to behave like an upset woman. On the other hand, as a man, I should probably just ignore the slight (as rude as it was) and only call her on it if she tries to contact me. Of course, the best way to have her try to contact me is to keep leading as full and satisfying a life as possible, one which any person would want to be part of ... :)
 
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Who gives a fvck if she notices shes not your facebook friend honestly. NEXT NEXT NEXT NEXT NEXT. No contact means removing all contact with her not to make her see the error of her ways but to keep you from bothering with it.

Seriously I had a chick I was banging remove me from her facebook and I didn't even notice until we were at the same bar and she said something about it, because I honestly could care less. It doesn't work that way.

Just next her, don't talk to her, don't text, don't IM, there are more dames who are more interesting and more fun and won't disrespect you multiple times in the period of two days..
 
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