"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Should I call her?

OlympicTim

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Alright so their was this girl who I easily could of hooked up with 1-2 months ago but basically I was being a little ***** and didn't make a move at a party.

I left for college 2 days later and we kind of just stopped talking except for the odd snapchat and when I got a new phone and she texted me so I had her number.

Do you guys think I should call her and ask her to hangout when I go back or do you think I blew my shot and should just pursue other options.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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blind_one

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She might be an option. The description is too vague and lacks detail. She texted you, establish contact meet her and do whatever you want I guess ?
 

mrpickles666

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Yeah just call her. And enjoy talking to her. She could end up being your girlfriend.
 

om1xr

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"I will be at ------ Friday at --time--. join me for some fun" send
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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El Payaso

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"I will be at ------ Friday at --time--. join me for some fun" send
Good text. It has to be a place you are going regardless if she says yes or no. That way you maintain outcome independence.
 

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Be firm and say - "Hey, let's catch up for a game of bowling at <place> at <your time> on <your day or another day>!"

Just give two options ... (it's a marketing tactics) ...

Do not let them decide ... you take the lead and they have to follow ... :)
 

parkthebus

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Be firm and say - "Hey, let's catch up for a game of bowling at <place> at <your time> on <your day or another day>!"

Just give two options ... (it's a marketing tactics) ...

Do not let them decide ... you take the lead and they have to follow ... :)
Is the marketing tactic that you make them think they're making the decision for them self? Because thats obviously different for deciding and leading
 

aforabi

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It's for YOU ...

You are trying to be both - little bit "flexible" but also firm!

If you give them three or more options, they really cannot decide. Two options, (either Tues or Wed) implies a lot of things - you are flexible, but you also don't have the whole week free for her. You have other things going on ... You just raised your value there by ONLY being available on those two days and not more than that...

The best marketing tactics is designed for the "marketer" - i.e. YOU!
 

parkthebus

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I used to book appointments door to door for home improvement salesmen. We used the tactic. You give a pitch and then offer a date. You give someone the opportunity to take control which they will jump at but really they're only making the choice you give them.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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