"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Should I call her?

OlympicTim

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Alright so their was this girl who I easily could of hooked up with 1-2 months ago but basically I was being a little ***** and didn't make a move at a party.

I left for college 2 days later and we kind of just stopped talking except for the odd snapchat and when I got a new phone and she texted me so I had her number.

Do you guys think I should call her and ask her to hangout when I go back or do you think I blew my shot and should just pursue other options.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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blind_one

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She might be an option. The description is too vague and lacks detail. She texted you, establish contact meet her and do whatever you want I guess ?
 

mrpickles666

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Yeah just call her. And enjoy talking to her. She could end up being your girlfriend.
 

om1xr

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"I will be at ------ Friday at --time--. join me for some fun" send
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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El Payaso

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"I will be at ------ Friday at --time--. join me for some fun" send
Good text. It has to be a place you are going regardless if she says yes or no. That way you maintain outcome independence.
 

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Be firm and say - "Hey, let's catch up for a game of bowling at <place> at <your time> on <your day or another day>!"

Just give two options ... (it's a marketing tactics) ...

Do not let them decide ... you take the lead and they have to follow ... :)
 

parkthebus

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Be firm and say - "Hey, let's catch up for a game of bowling at <place> at <your time> on <your day or another day>!"

Just give two options ... (it's a marketing tactics) ...

Do not let them decide ... you take the lead and they have to follow ... :)
Is the marketing tactic that you make them think they're making the decision for them self? Because thats obviously different for deciding and leading
 

aforabi

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It's for YOU ...

You are trying to be both - little bit "flexible" but also firm!

If you give them three or more options, they really cannot decide. Two options, (either Tues or Wed) implies a lot of things - you are flexible, but you also don't have the whole week free for her. You have other things going on ... You just raised your value there by ONLY being available on those two days and not more than that...

The best marketing tactics is designed for the "marketer" - i.e. YOU!
 

parkthebus

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I used to book appointments door to door for home improvement salesmen. We used the tactic. You give a pitch and then offer a date. You give someone the opportunity to take control which they will jump at but really they're only making the choice you give them.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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