This girl does not understand the concept of offering another time. She's given me an ultimatum of that if I can't live with her schedule then walk on. She works and says she's tired after work so that eliminates 4 days out of week and her free time on weekend she wants to spend with her girls. I know she has interest but she's being spoilt expecting me to be at her beck and call when its convenient for her. I need to tell her what she's doing is spoilt and disrespectful to my time but she does not understand this concept. Am I better off not saying anything at all? Or responding to her text explaining why her denmands
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
should i call her bluff?
- Thread starter pete101
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
wow. You seriously have to ask? there is no hope for this relationship. this woman does not respect you and probably never will. As a man you have to take action.
what action u ask? Date other woman!
No explanation, no telling her she's sploit etc. just cut her off! do not respond to texts, if she calls don't respond to anything she says, tell her you'll call her back. Make her come to see you face to face... then lay down the law of what you expect from her.
Obviously if she never comes to see you it does not matter because you've already cut her off.
gl.
what action u ask? Date other woman!
No explanation, no telling her she's sploit etc. just cut her off! do not respond to texts, if she calls don't respond to anything she says, tell her you'll call her back. Make her come to see you face to face... then lay down the law of what you expect from her.
Obviously if she never comes to see you it does not matter because you've already cut her off.
gl.
My point is that she is interested I know she is but we only just started seeing each other and she's just 1 of these flakey girls who wants to do what she wants when she wants. I feel like I'm being overzealous tryna take up her time when I only been out with her on 2 dates. I'm seething cos she goes 'if that does not fit into your lifestyle then that's your probhlem' she literally does not know the concept of respect and wants to do things cadually of if you're free and she's free we'll hook up othereise never mind. I'm tryna be firm but its like I'm tryna be firm too much too soon, she specifically didn't eant a bf for this exact reason so she can come and go as she pleases I should counteract thst by being busy and out too. I feel she needs to be told exactly why what she's requesting is unreasonable cos she literally does not understand. Will me responding in detail why what sahe does not understand just going to backfire?
If you drop her out of your life, you will find out just exactly how interested she really is in you. Don't call or otherwise converse with her. If she comes begging after a week or two then she's interested in you. If she doesn't, then she's obviously not as interested in you as you'd like to think, and you must move on.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Her exact text was 'if u judge like that then keep on walking.. I already told u I have a tight schedule & I don't wanna tie my free time to a schedule too.. If that doesn't suit your lifestyle then that's your problem' this was after I said 'I judge a girl by her actions not words.. Words mean nothing to me' is she just testing me with this ultimatum? Cos if I don't come back she'll think that we're not suited. Would most afc's try to smooth things over but the manly thing would be to call her bluff and not respond or chase up? Will she feel like she missed out on something when I walk away? Or will she feel like it doesn't matter?