This girl does not understand the concept of offering another time. She's given me an ultimatum of that if I can't live with her schedule then walk on. She works and says she's tired after work so that eliminates 4 days out of week and her free time on weekend she wants to spend with her girls. I know she has interest but she's being spoilt expecting me to be at her beck and call when its convenient for her. I need to tell her what she's doing is spoilt and disrespectful to my time but she does not understand this concept. Am I better off not saying anything at all? Or responding to her text explaining why her denmands
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
should i call her bluff?
- Thread starter pete101
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
wow. You seriously have to ask? there is no hope for this relationship. this woman does not respect you and probably never will. As a man you have to take action.
what action u ask? Date other woman!
No explanation, no telling her she's sploit etc. just cut her off! do not respond to texts, if she calls don't respond to anything she says, tell her you'll call her back. Make her come to see you face to face... then lay down the law of what you expect from her.
Obviously if she never comes to see you it does not matter because you've already cut her off.
gl.
what action u ask? Date other woman!
No explanation, no telling her she's sploit etc. just cut her off! do not respond to texts, if she calls don't respond to anything she says, tell her you'll call her back. Make her come to see you face to face... then lay down the law of what you expect from her.
Obviously if she never comes to see you it does not matter because you've already cut her off.
gl.
My point is that she is interested I know she is but we only just started seeing each other and she's just 1 of these flakey girls who wants to do what she wants when she wants. I feel like I'm being overzealous tryna take up her time when I only been out with her on 2 dates. I'm seething cos she goes 'if that does not fit into your lifestyle then that's your probhlem' she literally does not know the concept of respect and wants to do things cadually of if you're free and she's free we'll hook up othereise never mind. I'm tryna be firm but its like I'm tryna be firm too much too soon, she specifically didn't eant a bf for this exact reason so she can come and go as she pleases I should counteract thst by being busy and out too. I feel she needs to be told exactly why what she's requesting is unreasonable cos she literally does not understand. Will me responding in detail why what sahe does not understand just going to backfire?
If you drop her out of your life, you will find out just exactly how interested she really is in you. Don't call or otherwise converse with her. If she comes begging after a week or two then she's interested in you. If she doesn't, then she's obviously not as interested in you as you'd like to think, and you must move on.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Her exact text was 'if u judge like that then keep on walking.. I already told u I have a tight schedule & I don't wanna tie my free time to a schedule too.. If that doesn't suit your lifestyle then that's your problem' this was after I said 'I judge a girl by her actions not words.. Words mean nothing to me' is she just testing me with this ultimatum? Cos if I don't come back she'll think that we're not suited. Would most afc's try to smooth things over but the manly thing would be to call her bluff and not respond or chase up? Will she feel like she missed out on something when I walk away? Or will she feel like it doesn't matter?