"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Should I build more rapport or ask her out?

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One of my co-workers had a few friends come visit her the other day, and as they were leaving, she asked if I thought one of them was cute. I said yes, so she went over and gave her my number. She (HB7) texted a few days later and it went like this:

HER: Hey it's Sarah the chick you thought was cute on Monday
ME: Lol.. what's goin on
HER: Not much you?
ME: Just ran 5 miles and it's 103 degrees out. Whew.
HER: Oh wow drink lots of water!
ME: For sure. Hope you're staying cool. It was our hottest day in 23 years
HER: I'm at the pool tanning lol
ME: Haha prob burnt to a crisp by now
HER: Lol nope


So the ice has been broken between us. My question is: do I text her a little more to build rapport, or straight up ask her out? Was thinking of something like "hey- taking my puppy for a walk around the lakes Saturday, you should join us".

Any suggestions?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Why don't you just call her and ask her that?
 
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the_stig said:
One of my co-workers had a few friends come visit her the other day, and as they were leaving, she asked if I thought one of them was cute. I said yes, so she went over and gave her my number. She (HB7) texted a few days later and it went like this:

HER: Hey it's Sarah the chick you thought was cute on Monday
ME: Lol.. what's goin on
HER: Not much you?
ME: Just ran 5 miles and it's 103 degrees out. Whew.
HER: Oh wow drink lots of water!
ME: For sure. Hope you're staying cool. It was our hottest day in 23 years
HER: I'm at the pool tanning lol
ME: Haha prob burnt to a crisp by now
HER: Lol nope
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That's more than enough rapport. You're already a friend of her friend, right? That's all the rapport you need.

So the ice has been broken between us. My question is: do I text her a little more to build rapport, or straight up ask her out? Was thinking of something like "hey- taking my puppy for a walk around the lakes Saturday, you should join us".

Any suggestions?
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I'd rather you take her for a drink. But I think that works.

You're set. Pull the trigger.
 
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CALL don't ******ing text. I learned that the hard way.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It's amazing how things are just given to some guys.

I would kill for an opportunity like this.

Ask her out already.
 
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Maxtro said:
It's amazing how things are just given to some guys.

I would kill for an opportunity like this.

Ask her out already.
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And he still had to ask! Ha ha
 
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Ok ok, but work the iron while it is hot. Most problems guys have are to do with timming. Go get her now.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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