"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Should I build more rapport or ask her out?

the_stig

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One of my co-workers had a few friends come visit her the other day, and as they were leaving, she asked if I thought one of them was cute. I said yes, so she went over and gave her my number. She (HB7) texted a few days later and it went like this:

HER: Hey it's Sarah the chick you thought was cute on Monday
ME: Lol.. what's goin on
HER: Not much you?
ME: Just ran 5 miles and it's 103 degrees out. Whew.
HER: Oh wow drink lots of water!
ME: For sure. Hope you're staying cool. It was our hottest day in 23 years
HER: I'm at the pool tanning lol
ME: Haha prob burnt to a crisp by now
HER: Lol nope


So the ice has been broken between us. My question is: do I text her a little more to build rapport, or straight up ask her out? Was thinking of something like "hey- taking my puppy for a walk around the lakes Saturday, you should join us".

Any suggestions?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Vice

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Why don't you just call her and ask her that?
 

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the_stig said:
One of my co-workers had a few friends come visit her the other day, and as they were leaving, she asked if I thought one of them was cute. I said yes, so she went over and gave her my number. She (HB7) texted a few days later and it went like this:

HER: Hey it's Sarah the chick you thought was cute on Monday
ME: Lol.. what's goin on
HER: Not much you?
ME: Just ran 5 miles and it's 103 degrees out. Whew.
HER: Oh wow drink lots of water!
ME: For sure. Hope you're staying cool. It was our hottest day in 23 years
HER: I'm at the pool tanning lol
ME: Haha prob burnt to a crisp by now
HER: Lol nope
That's more than enough rapport. You're already a friend of her friend, right? That's all the rapport you need.

So the ice has been broken between us. My question is: do I text her a little more to build rapport, or straight up ask her out? Was thinking of something like "hey- taking my puppy for a walk around the lakes Saturday, you should join us".

Any suggestions?
I'd rather you take her for a drink. But I think that works.

You're set. Pull the trigger.
 

JPlaya

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CALL don't ******ing text. I learned that the hard way.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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It's amazing how things are just given to some guys.

I would kill for an opportunity like this.

Ask her out already.
 

PapiChulo

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Maxtro said:
It's amazing how things are just given to some guys.

I would kill for an opportunity like this.

Ask her out already.
And he still had to ask! Ha ha
 

PapiChulo

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Ok ok, but work the iron while it is hot. Most problems guys have are to do with timming. Go get her now.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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