"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Hey guys, I've got a catch 22 situation here. I'm a freshman in college, been going now for a couple of weeks. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 2 months, but she's a junior in high school. Things were great during the summer, but now i'm lucky to see her once a week. It feels like we're growing apart, even thought we both have a great time together and she wants to keep the relationship alive. I don't think I can handle a relationship where i'm probably gonna spend a couple hours one time a week with her for two years until she lives in my town for college. Right now she doesn't drive, so if I wanna see her that means driving an hour each way back to my hometown. I'm scared that If we do break up, I won't find any girl around here that's as cool and loving, or be too shy to even get another girl.
Basically I'm not being satisfied physically or emotionally nearly enough with such limited contact.
Is it a bastard move to meet and flirt with other girls in case we do break up?
Problem is, i'm scared to death to talk to her about it, 'cause she started crying when she thought I was getting ready to talk to her about the situation.
WTF should I do?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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One of my biggest regrets was having a girlfriend during my college years.
 
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Lucas718 said:
One of my biggest regrets was having a girlfriend during my college years.
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I second that. Tons and tons of missed opportunity.
 
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Just break up with her. It's for your and her own good
 
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You can take the comfortable way out or the right way out. Its not our decision.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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kx361 said:
Any advice on making a breakup less brutal?
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The only advice I have is to be honest with yourself. If you are 100% honest with your decision, you will have no regrets down the road. Also, she should respect the fact that you’re being honest and not playing games with her by ending it.
 
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"I'm scared that If we do break up, I won't find any girl around here that's as cool and loving, or be too shy to even get another girl."

thats the only reason ur with her cos ur too whack to find another girl. My advice is step ya game up and dont settle for things when its in you to get better. End it.. 2 months? its nothing.
 
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Lucas718 said:
One of my biggest regrets was having a girlfriend during my college years.
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Agreed.
 
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Thanks guys, there's some good knowledge to be had on this site
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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