"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Should I break up?

kx361

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Hey guys, I've got a catch 22 situation here. I'm a freshman in college, been going now for a couple of weeks. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 2 months, but she's a junior in high school. Things were great during the summer, but now i'm lucky to see her once a week. It feels like we're growing apart, even thought we both have a great time together and she wants to keep the relationship alive. I don't think I can handle a relationship where i'm probably gonna spend a couple hours one time a week with her for two years until she lives in my town for college. Right now she doesn't drive, so if I wanna see her that means driving an hour each way back to my hometown. I'm scared that If we do break up, I won't find any girl around here that's as cool and loving, or be too shy to even get another girl.
Basically I'm not being satisfied physically or emotionally nearly enough with such limited contact.
Is it a bastard move to meet and flirt with other girls in case we do break up?
Problem is, i'm scared to death to talk to her about it, 'cause she started crying when she thought I was getting ready to talk to her about the situation.
WTF should I do?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Lucas718

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One of my biggest regrets was having a girlfriend during my college years.
 

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Lucas718 said:
One of my biggest regrets was having a girlfriend during my college years.
I second that. Tons and tons of missed opportunity.
 

donjuanjovi

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Just break up with her. It's for your and her own good
 

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You can take the comfortable way out or the right way out. Its not our decision.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Bronxtal112

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kx361 said:
Any advice on making a breakup less brutal?
The only advice I have is to be honest with yourself. If you are 100% honest with your decision, you will have no regrets down the road. Also, she should respect the fact that you’re being honest and not playing games with her by ending it.
 

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"I'm scared that If we do break up, I won't find any girl around here that's as cool and loving, or be too shy to even get another girl."

thats the only reason ur with her cos ur too whack to find another girl. My advice is step ya game up and dont settle for things when its in you to get better. End it.. 2 months? its nothing.
 

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Lucas718 said:
One of my biggest regrets was having a girlfriend during my college years.

Agreed.
 

kx361

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Thanks guys, there's some good knowledge to be had on this site
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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