"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Should I break up?

kx361

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Hey guys, I've got a catch 22 situation here. I'm a freshman in college, been going now for a couple of weeks. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 2 months, but she's a junior in high school. Things were great during the summer, but now i'm lucky to see her once a week. It feels like we're growing apart, even thought we both have a great time together and she wants to keep the relationship alive. I don't think I can handle a relationship where i'm probably gonna spend a couple hours one time a week with her for two years until she lives in my town for college. Right now she doesn't drive, so if I wanna see her that means driving an hour each way back to my hometown. I'm scared that If we do break up, I won't find any girl around here that's as cool and loving, or be too shy to even get another girl.
Basically I'm not being satisfied physically or emotionally nearly enough with such limited contact.
Is it a bastard move to meet and flirt with other girls in case we do break up?
Problem is, i'm scared to death to talk to her about it, 'cause she started crying when she thought I was getting ready to talk to her about the situation.
WTF should I do?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Lucas718

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One of my biggest regrets was having a girlfriend during my college years.
 

Bronxtal112

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Lucas718 said:
One of my biggest regrets was having a girlfriend during my college years.
I second that. Tons and tons of missed opportunity.
 

donjuanjovi

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Just break up with her. It's for your and her own good
 

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You can take the comfortable way out or the right way out. Its not our decision.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Bronxtal112

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kx361 said:
Any advice on making a breakup less brutal?
The only advice I have is to be honest with yourself. If you are 100% honest with your decision, you will have no regrets down the road. Also, she should respect the fact that you’re being honest and not playing games with her by ending it.
 

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"I'm scared that If we do break up, I won't find any girl around here that's as cool and loving, or be too shy to even get another girl."

thats the only reason ur with her cos ur too whack to find another girl. My advice is step ya game up and dont settle for things when its in you to get better. End it.. 2 months? its nothing.
 

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Lucas718 said:
One of my biggest regrets was having a girlfriend during my college years.

Agreed.
 

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Thanks guys, there's some good knowledge to be had on this site
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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