"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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should i bother?

big weezy

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i had an internet date with this 40 year old woman who seemed to be into me. she was really annoying, complaining about being cold before she'd even arrived then tried to get me to go to a different bar.. seems demanding, high maintenance.. i sat in the bar and she came in trying to look for somewhere else to sit, i told her there aren't any more spaces and she insisted on going around looking.. it really p1ssed me off. i did not look happy. spent the whole time pretty much arguing with her the entire date yet she still seems to be into me.

she wouldn't let me kiss close her but let me feel her up grab her a$$, legs etc. she has 2 kids, 1 15 who babysits the other when she goes on dates. im tryna spin other plates but my other option hasn't texted me back (the brunch offer 1 from my other thread) seeing as she appears to be my only option should i bother?

i cant see how i'd bang her at hers, i doubt her 15 year old will want to hear her mom being pounded on a Sat night so unless she's out i can't see how this will happen. i can't f her at mine and im not springing for a motel.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If you can't be bothered, don't.
If you want to then do.
Do what you want to do, I don't see how this is a question for the board.

Peace.
 

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******* said:
Why can't you bang her at your place?
i live with my folks, so no can do.

realistically i could only do it if a)her daughter goes to a party on Fri-Sat night (she'd prob have to pick her up at midnight) and her other son who's 7 goes to bed at 10, so that time window of 10-12 i could come over..assuming she is down for that?

i assume a normal sane single mother wouldn't want strange men in her house at the same time as her kids.

or b)try to fool around in the car

i just feel i dont wanna waste another 20-25 dollars on 2-3 more dates for it to go nowhere, apart from me giving her attention, feeling her up and that's it. maybe i'll get head in the car. most i can expect.

plus she gives me the whole speech of 'i dont do anything casual.. but at same time im not looking for anything serious.. so we'll see how it goes'

i think she's into me physically which is good which might stop me being in the 'provider' category adn more the 'lover' plus im much younger than her.
 

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Trust me, if she wants to fvck you bad enough, she will drop the kids off somewhere to facilitate taking that d!ck...

Only one way to find out...invite her to cook dinner for you and see what happens...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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