"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Should I be worried?

JLW

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My gf who I've been having an LTR with hung out with this kid (we'll call him Justin).

Basically, Justin is a bad news kid. He does drugs, he's pretty much a full-on alcoholic, cheats on his girlfriend constantly, and pretty much is an all-around *******. Complete dirtbag.

Anyway, she has been hanging out with him because she goes to school with him. She goes a different school than most of her friends. She has hung out with him 3 times over her spring break because she doesn't really have anyone else to hang out with.

The reason for this is because all of her friends have a different spring break. My gf's and Justin's spring break is this week, while all of her other friends' spring breaks (including mine) are next week.

Also, my girlfriend is a very very social person. She hates staying in alone. So she's sorta hanging out with him cuz there's no one else to hang out with.

But should I be worried about Justin making a move on her? Am I being insecure about it? I mean, I wouldn't really care if they were in a group, but that's not the case. They're hanging out alone.

Should I intervene and say something to her?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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By the way, this girl has pretty high interests for me.

And she still has been interested in sex (meaning she isnt getting it from anywhere else, including Justin). I'm just afraid that he will make a pass on her.

She has mentioned that he's a good friend, and she would "never hook up with him" a long time ago when he was mentioned a while ago. I'm pretty sure he's in the friend zone, but I really cant say for sure.
 

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Well I was just thinking it would be insecure and sorta weak to ask her. but at the same time it seems WAY too controlling to say "You can't hang out with him"
 

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find an indirect way, like "what you guys get up to" or something
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Anyone else have feedback on this?
 

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did she make him her friend (ljbf)?
she probally just wants someone to hang out with, it doesnt mean that she wants him.
 
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