I recently got rejected by a girl (probably was too nice guy and slow) and now want to keep contact to a minimal so I never have to listen to any of her pointless problems. She is requesting me to send her a document (would take all of five seconds on my part). I don't have any desire to be her friend, but would rather not have someone **** talking me. Should I be helpful and send it to her, or is that just asking for trouble?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Should I be helpful?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
EyeBRollin
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Don't do anything you don't want to do. Period.
logicallefty
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Guess I'd want to know what the document is. What's in it for you? Will it prove something where she was wrong and you were right? Then yeah send it... I love using clear and authentic evidence to deflate a woman's fat head... But if it's only something to help her and nothing in the deal for you, forget about it... Her loss. When a woman rejects a man, she rejects all of him.. And that includes any/all resources, benefits, help, perks, etc. that may come with him.. You are not her a la carte lunch menu..She gets all or nothing..
It was some notes for a test. I will take your advice and not send them. It will help the curve anyway for her to be less informed
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Meh, declining to send her a document that would take you 5 seconds shows that you're bitter... if it was actually something that would take some time, then I would agree tell her sorry and don't do it. But for something trivial that she needs your help with, I think you should be the bigger person and just do it.
Your attitude should be indifferent, not resentful
Your attitude should be indifferent, not resentful
dustmuffin
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You could tell her that you accidentally deleted the notes.....Sounds like something a woman would do....I know...