I recently got rejected by a girl (probably was too nice guy and slow) and now want to keep contact to a minimal so I never have to listen to any of her pointless problems. She is requesting me to send her a document (would take all of five seconds on my part). I don't have any desire to be her friend, but would rather not have someone **** talking me. Should I be helpful and send it to her, or is that just asking for trouble?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Should I be helpful?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
EyeBRollin
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Don't do anything you don't want to do. Period.
logicallefty
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Guess I'd want to know what the document is. What's in it for you? Will it prove something where she was wrong and you were right? Then yeah send it... I love using clear and authentic evidence to deflate a woman's fat head... But if it's only something to help her and nothing in the deal for you, forget about it... Her loss. When a woman rejects a man, she rejects all of him.. And that includes any/all resources, benefits, help, perks, etc. that may come with him.. You are not her a la carte lunch menu..She gets all or nothing..
It was some notes for a test. I will take your advice and not send them. It will help the curve anyway for her to be less informed
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Meh, declining to send her a document that would take you 5 seconds shows that you're bitter... if it was actually something that would take some time, then I would agree tell her sorry and don't do it. But for something trivial that she needs your help with, I think you should be the bigger person and just do it.
Your attitude should be indifferent, not resentful
Your attitude should be indifferent, not resentful
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You could tell her that you accidentally deleted the notes.....Sounds like something a woman would do....I know...