I recently got rejected by a girl (probably was too nice guy and slow) and now want to keep contact to a minimal so I never have to listen to any of her pointless problems. She is requesting me to send her a document (would take all of five seconds on my part). I don't have any desire to be her friend, but would rather not have someone **** talking me. Should I be helpful and send it to her, or is that just asking for trouble?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Should I be helpful?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
EyeBRollin
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Don't do anything you don't want to do. Period.
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Guess I'd want to know what the document is. What's in it for you? Will it prove something where she was wrong and you were right? Then yeah send it... I love using clear and authentic evidence to deflate a woman's fat head... But if it's only something to help her and nothing in the deal for you, forget about it... Her loss. When a woman rejects a man, she rejects all of him.. And that includes any/all resources, benefits, help, perks, etc. that may come with him.. You are not her a la carte lunch menu..She gets all or nothing..
It was some notes for a test. I will take your advice and not send them. It will help the curve anyway for her to be less informed
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Meh, declining to send her a document that would take you 5 seconds shows that you're bitter... if it was actually something that would take some time, then I would agree tell her sorry and don't do it. But for something trivial that she needs your help with, I think you should be the bigger person and just do it.
Your attitude should be indifferent, not resentful
Your attitude should be indifferent, not resentful
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You could tell her that you accidentally deleted the notes.....Sounds like something a woman would do....I know...