I recently got rejected by a girl (probably was too nice guy and slow) and now want to keep contact to a minimal so I never have to listen to any of her pointless problems. She is requesting me to send her a document (would take all of five seconds on my part). I don't have any desire to be her friend, but would rather not have someone **** talking me. Should I be helpful and send it to her, or is that just asking for trouble?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Should I be helpful?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
EyeBRollin
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Don't do anything you don't want to do. Period.
logicallefty
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Guess I'd want to know what the document is. What's in it for you? Will it prove something where she was wrong and you were right? Then yeah send it... I love using clear and authentic evidence to deflate a woman's fat head... But if it's only something to help her and nothing in the deal for you, forget about it... Her loss. When a woman rejects a man, she rejects all of him.. And that includes any/all resources, benefits, help, perks, etc. that may come with him.. You are not her a la carte lunch menu..She gets all or nothing..
It was some notes for a test. I will take your advice and not send them. It will help the curve anyway for her to be less informed
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Meh, declining to send her a document that would take you 5 seconds shows that you're bitter... if it was actually something that would take some time, then I would agree tell her sorry and don't do it. But for something trivial that she needs your help with, I think you should be the bigger person and just do it.
Your attitude should be indifferent, not resentful
Your attitude should be indifferent, not resentful
dustmuffin
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You could tell her that you accidentally deleted the notes.....Sounds like something a woman would do....I know...