"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Should I ask out my bosses granddaughter?

Macaframalama

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So, my bosses granddaughter has just went through a divorce and I've been contemplating asking her out, but not sure wether I should be mixing business with pleasure. Her grandfather owns a multi-million dollar company that he created from the ground up, which is ran by the whole family. She actually cuts my checks, her mother is the lead accountant on the way out and her uncle runs the day to day, so there's the potential to royally fvck some chit up. We gel pretty well as far as convo goes and have had some lengthy talks, but I've been leery of attempting turning it sexy at all. She would also be the most attractive girl I've dated, but the older I get, the better looking and younger the girls I'm picking up are getting, so I'm confident, but if I was to put money on it, I would give myself a 40/60 chance realistically of her saying yes. I don't like living with regret, but I could also possibly end up regretting losing a decent paying job, that I've worked for 5+ years.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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RedScorpion

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Go for it. But don't be surprised that if things go downhill with this girl, then she's going to be expressing herself to those closest to her. Especially since it's a very tight knit company-family group. Depending on what happened and how she handles a split between you two - could range from minor repercussions to major.

You already know the risks at hand here.
 
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I don't think it's a good idea.

A just divorced woman, related to your boss and involved in the family business, it's all too close to your job security. If it doesn't work out and she feels hurt by you what could the consequences be?

Not worth it, in my opinion. Family run businesses are very loyal to each other and will do things that other employers can't easily do, like find a way to sack the guy who pumped and dumped the granddaughter of the owner of the company.
 

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Yea, I didn't even think of the consequences of if it did end up going somewhere and ending badly later down the line.
 

El Payaso

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Unless you don't care about your job then go for it.

In my experience, dating coworkers or anything of the like always leads to disaster.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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