"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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Should I ask her out to lunch, NOW..

Kendog

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Ive been chatting with this girl(on AIM!), a little chubby but her face is kind of cute, wtf, I need some practice and I might be surprised anyways.

Im thinking about saying this: "hey, are busy tommorow"? (sunday) "want to join me for lunch at Subway?"

Im sure she'll say yes and then im set?
she's obviously lonely and she's giving me hints that her ex is on the prowl for her again so I need to act fast.

Factors that are making me hesitate:
1. my 2nd cousin (same last name) lost his virginity to her and is an old ex.
2. She already has established me as a friend becuase I've never made a solid move in the 3 weeks or so i've been chatting with ehr on AIM.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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AFK Protector

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Originally posted by Kendog
Ive been chatting with this girl(on AIM!), a little chubby but her face is kind of cute, wtf, I need some practice and I might be surprised anyways.

Im thinking about saying this: "hey, are busy tommorow"? (sunday) "want to join me for lunch at Subway?"

Im sure she'll say yes and then im set?
she's obviously lonely and she's giving me hints that her ex is on the prowl for her again so I need to act fast.

Factors that are making me hesitate:
1. my 2nd cousin (same last name) lost his virginity to her and is an old ex.
2. She already has established me as a friend becuase I've never made a solid move in the 3 weeks or so i've been chatting with ehr on AIM.

.........I never made a move on HALF the girls at MY school for...for...4 years!!! ...maybe that's why all the noobs are getting the women.
 

Kendog

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Ill take that as yes i should just do it becuae im a pathetic n00b
 

Kendog

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thanks, i have some confidence problems maybe. I'm such a *****, I feel like a 12 year old having a hard time asking her to lunch over AIM!!! dear god help me., once i press send theres no turning back.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ScrewIt

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Originally posted by Kendog
thanks, i have some confidence problems maybe. I'm such a *****, I feel like a 12 year old having a hard time asking her to lunch over AIM!!! dear god help me., once i press send theres no turning back.
yes we all fear rejection, but we have to look the devil in the eyes sometimes and face our fears. you never know the outcome unless u try right??

c'mon it's just lunch, no real biggie. just think of her as a colleague you know
 

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If she's kinda chubby, like you said, and you're asking her out to lunch to Subway, I wouldn't be surprised if she took it the wrong way and thought you are calling her fat.
 
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