Mixedlinks
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Should I ask her if she is dating other people?
- Thread starter Mixedlinks
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I can't believe you are even asking this brother...
You have gone out with this girl 3 TIMES!!!! Obviously she isn't dating anyone, and if she ends up telling you that she is then she's probably lying to you because she put you in the friend zone for keeping her waiting so much! When are you going to make your move on her?? She's only human can't keep the poor gal waiting forever!
Asking her if she is dating other people is the last thing you should have on your mind. The first thing you should have on your mind is escalating and kissing her and kissing her ASAP!
If you don't make your move then guess what? she will think you don't like her as a possible romantic partner and she will inevitably end up in the arms of some guy that shows her some love. Women lose their patience..
When a woman agrees to go out with you
1. It's because she finds you attractive/interesting or a combination of both
2. She would be open to see "where this can lead" as in a possible relationship
3. She's ready for romance again. Women want romance and action as much as we do.
Just remember the above for next time and try to kiss close by the 2nd or third date.
hb: how many girlfriends have you had
hero: 167
You never want to be seen as a lonely virgin that doesn't get women. Just lie, exaggerate. Women are attracted to men that have or have had lots of women in their lives.
You have gone out with this girl 3 TIMES!!!! Obviously she isn't dating anyone, and if she ends up telling you that she is then she's probably lying to you because she put you in the friend zone for keeping her waiting so much! When are you going to make your move on her?? She's only human can't keep the poor gal waiting forever!
Asking her if she is dating other people is the last thing you should have on your mind. The first thing you should have on your mind is escalating and kissing her and kissing her ASAP!
If you don't make your move then guess what? she will think you don't like her as a possible romantic partner and she will inevitably end up in the arms of some guy that shows her some love. Women lose their patience..
When a woman agrees to go out with you
1. It's because she finds you attractive/interesting or a combination of both
2. She would be open to see "where this can lead" as in a possible relationship
3. She's ready for romance again. Women want romance and action as much as we do.
Just remember the above for next time and try to kiss close by the 2nd or third date.
Exagerate
hb: how many girlfriends have you had
hero: 167
You never want to be seen as a lonely virgin that doesn't get women. Just lie, exaggerate. Women are attracted to men that have or have had lots of women in their lives.
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I haven't come on here that much anymore & now I know why!!!
Are you that socially inept & needy that you need validation? 4 DATES??? Please tell me you at least got heavy into kissing & touching before worrying about asking her dating experiences?
OK here's the lesson:
Girls date, girls fu*k, girls have lives...your job is to make them forget about ALL other activities & 'boys' in their lives!! you don't ask about who shes dating, who shes bang*in...you know why? because shouting loudly in your head should be the words, "SHES ONLY THINKING ABOUT ME BECAUSE IM THE BEST THING SINCE SLICED BREAD"
be confident! be cool & dont worry if shes exclusive
Are you that socially inept & needy that you need validation? 4 DATES??? Please tell me you at least got heavy into kissing & touching before worrying about asking her dating experiences?
OK here's the lesson:
Girls date, girls fu*k, girls have lives...your job is to make them forget about ALL other activities & 'boys' in their lives!! you don't ask about who shes dating, who shes bang*in...you know why? because shouting loudly in your head should be the words, "SHES ONLY THINKING ABOUT ME BECAUSE IM THE BEST THING SINCE SLICED BREAD"
be confident! be cool & dont worry if shes exclusive
Naughty Ninja
Banned
To the TS. Don't ask her anything like that. And don't wait.
Those who wait....masturbate.
Those who wait....masturbate.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
Should be also noted other than all the obvious things the others have pointed out and are spot on about, your moving BACKWARDS IN this scenario. Dates usually work something like this:
1st date: couple drinks at a local watering hole
2nd date: action date (bowling/mini golf/carnival etc)
3rd date: wine tasting or something like going to the beach etc
4th date: movie night aka: get some night
As many have said before, sexual attraction isn't something that is negotiated like a contract; its either there or it isn't. If its there and you two go out a few times, chances are she wants to fuvk you just as much as you want to fuvk her.
The reason your left scratching your head here and she's "hard to read" is all on you bro. I don't even need to ask you if you've kissed her, felt her up, banged her etc because I know you haven't done any of it. Remember if your not progressing your REGRESSING and those that regress are always the ones who start to question everything. Its a vicious cycle that then leads to you over-analyzing, which leads to you not being the guy that got her interest in the first place...... you see where this is going right?
Answer these questions:
1) What are your conversations about on these dates?
2) Has she touched you? Even casually?
3) Have you touched her?
4) Does she give off any sort of sexual vibe?
The situation looks bleak, but you might be able to salvage it if you get your act together.
PIMP
1st date: couple drinks at a local watering hole
2nd date: action date (bowling/mini golf/carnival etc)
3rd date: wine tasting or something like going to the beach etc
4th date: movie night aka: get some night
As many have said before, sexual attraction isn't something that is negotiated like a contract; its either there or it isn't. If its there and you two go out a few times, chances are she wants to fuvk you just as much as you want to fuvk her.
The reason your left scratching your head here and she's "hard to read" is all on you bro. I don't even need to ask you if you've kissed her, felt her up, banged her etc because I know you haven't done any of it. Remember if your not progressing your REGRESSING and those that regress are always the ones who start to question everything. Its a vicious cycle that then leads to you over-analyzing, which leads to you not being the guy that got her interest in the first place...... you see where this is going right?
Answer these questions:
1) What are your conversations about on these dates?
2) Has she touched you? Even casually?
3) Have you touched her?
4) Does she give off any sort of sexual vibe?
The situation looks bleak, but you might be able to salvage it if you get your act together.
PIMP